sex survey ~ and a question for the nurses
ok i have a lesbian friend who *sometimes* refuses to have sex with her partner. "why" you may ask? because her partner *sometimes* gets these little "things" on her fingers. (idk... 
) her partner claims that it's something that she's had all her life and INSISTS that it is NOT an std of any kind (again, idk... ) but her partner (my friend) is nervous about her OWN body and her OWN health (and i agree with her on that point. i'd be nervous too until i had a nurse or doctor to tell me otherwise.)
so, what say you? would YOU just... go with it? would YOU allow someone with "things" on their hands to put their hands on you in your most intimate places all the while not knowing what these "things" were? (this question applies to the men as well...) from what i understand they're sort of like blisters or something and they come and go quite frequently.
and for the nurses out there, what could this possibly be? a virus of some sort? could it be something that she's had all her life? could it be an std? does my friend need to be concerned? what can they do in order to protect their relationship and still be intimate and SAFE? (because her partner is really offended that my friend is scared about these "things" and says that it hurts her feelings that my friend would even question it. wtf?? seriously, who out there WOULDN'T be concerned about something like that in THIS day and age???)
) her partner claims that it's something that she's had all her life and INSISTS that it is NOT an std of any kind (again, idk... ) but her partner (my friend) is nervous about her OWN body and her OWN health (and i agree with her on that point. i'd be nervous too until i had a nurse or doctor to tell me otherwise.)
so, what say you? would YOU just... go with it? would YOU allow someone with "things" on their hands to put their hands on you in your most intimate places all the while not knowing what these "things" were? (this question applies to the men as well...) from what i understand they're sort of like blisters or something and they come and go quite frequently.
and for the nurses out there, what could this possibly be? a virus of some sort? could it be something that she's had all her life? could it be an std? does my friend need to be concerned? what can they do in order to protect their relationship and still be intimate and SAFE? (because her partner is really offended that my friend is scared about these "things" and says that it hurts her feelings that my friend would even question it. wtf?? seriously, who out there WOULDN'T be concerned about something like that in THIS day and age???) 
Ok I'll be the first to respond.
I am assuming they are a new couple? Now that is of course an assumption but, if this is something that has come and gone her whole life I would assume if they were together a long time than this would have come up before now.
So going on that assumption, I would offer to go to the doctor with her to find out what it is and how to treat it.. And until then use latex gloves during intamcy to be safe.
And the partner with the finger blisters should not be offended at all. In fact if I were her I would be worried and would have gone to the doctor a long time ago about it.
Hmm again, just my opinion!! HAPPY 4th Everyone!
idk how long they've been together ~ a few months maybe? 
but i think that my friend has kinda been sitting on this information and has been withholding her affections whenever it would flare up for fear of her own safety until it healed and for fear of offending her partner (but i really don't know. that's the feeling i get from it all but i could be way off base here, lol!! 
)
and about her partner, i KNOW, right??? like, wtf??? and apparently her partner's mom is a nurse or is going for her rn or something of that nature... so call your mom already!!!! geez!
anywho, thanks for the response 
and happy fourth to you as well 
who's next? anybody else got two cents to throw in on this? and where are all the nurses already???
but i think that my friend has kinda been sitting on this information and has been withholding her affections whenever it would flare up for fear of her own safety until it healed and for fear of offending her partner (but i really don't know. that's the feeling i get from it all but i could be way off base here, lol!! )
and about her partner, i KNOW, right??? like, wtf??? and apparently her partner's mom is a nurse or is going for her rn or something of that nature... so call your mom already!!!! geez!
anywho, thanks for the response and happy fourth to you as well
who's next? anybody else got two cents to throw in on this? and where are all the nurses already??? 
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on 7/3/08 11:02 pm - Houston, TX
on 7/3/08 11:02 pm - Houston, TX
thinkgy on the finger.....
hmm I know a Hang nail can spoil the mood 
Seriously, anyone who has anything on their body that grew there shouldn't be offended if someone wants a medical opinion before having that "thingie" in close proximity to their own body parts.
My ex-husband (when we were dating) all of sudden grew a wart on his penis, at the base. Yup, must having been doing the mattress mambo with the froggies in the swamp! At the tender age of 19, I told him he could get it removed, or not, it was up to him but his private parts were removed from mine as long as they had "pets".
He went to the doctor the following week, got it removed and got rewarded for this as soon as it healed. Turned out the darn thing was precancerous, so if I hadn't done that he might have had cancer WHERE?!
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