k, it's been awhile since i've made a post like this...

and i (STILL!!!!) have a migraine so please forgive me if i ramble or if i don't make much sense but i'm trying to figure some things out and i need a bit of help. some of y'all know me irl and some of y'all just know me from the boards. anywho if you remember, my gf and i have been together for a little over a year now and we've had "issues" that we've been working through. right now the thing that's most concerning to me is the fact that well... i seem to have to be the "responsible" one all the time. now granted, i'm 30 and she's 22 so OF COURSE i'm going to be more responsible but why does she get so angry with me about it??? like, when i say that we have this bill to pay or that bill to pay so we can't afford to go out why is the first thing out of her mouth always "we never get to go out!" like she's some kind of spoiled brat or something??? i mean wtf! i'm sorry that we aren't RICH! i'm sorry that we have RENT and INSURANCE and UTILITIES and can't eat out for every single friggin' meal but would you rather eat at mcdonald's or have a roof over your head? sheesh!

Oh it isn't all about age that is for sure. My partner is older than me (37) and I get the same thing. Maybe it is a Mother thing for me. I am, and she isn't, therefore I am used to doing with out in order for Moe to have more. If I had a solution to the problem I would probably be rich.. But at least I can tell you I relate!

Maybe it is a Mother thing for me. I am, and she isn't you know, you might be onto something there... but how to "fix" this...?? hmm...

Ahh... Now I REALLY think we have hit the nail on the head.. "fix" fixing things as a Mother, isn't that our job??? So maybe we feel or they believe we should "fix" things... Time to call my therapist..

lol, if you go to the main board you'll see a post from me and in my siggy there's a link to my offsite blog. if you click that you can go read one that i posted today about something that happened just yesterday that you might find interesting. (childish... the things that i deal with on a daily basis... )

When I was 22, I was in a relationship with a woman that was 30. We sometimes had those kinds of conflicts, although not exactly around the money issue. I think that at that time, I was still kind of forming my adult self, independent from my parents. I'd been living on my own for about 5 years at that time, but it takes a while, I suppose. I know that when I was acting resentful and juvenile (and you can bet I did!) it was usually because living with an adult that was behaving responsibly - and seeming kind of like a wet blanket, really - made me feel like a bratty, rebellious teenager. Seriously, I might as well have stomped my foot and announced, "You're not the boss of me!" I'm not sure there's much you can do about it, though. Z

Seriously, I might as well have stomped my foot and announced, "You're not the boss of me!" bingo, that's it exactly!!!