Hi from and old newbie

Hi Everyone, -I am not exactly new to Obesity Help, but I couldn't remember my old username or password, so I had to choose a new one. A few years ago, I was planning to have RNY surgery at Henry Ford in Detroit, but I wasn't able to make the weight loss goals in time, so never went through with the surgery. I was approved for the surgery 2 times, but in reality I was TERRIFIED to actually have it. I am in Ontario and in order to have out of country surgery, I had to get OHIP approval. They were really nasty with me when I didn't have the surgery after the first approval, so when I didn't make the weight loss goal after the second approval, I decided not to get abused like that again and did not re-apply. I am not waiting for my Dr. to send a referral to a new surgeon from within Canada, so that I don't need OHIP approval this time. I also don't need their judgement, so it is best this way. I am really being pushed to have the surgery by my partner, my doctor, and everyone else in my life, so I cannot say that I am one of those people who is 100% on board and jazzed about all of this. I'm pretty sick, so I know that they are pushing me because they are worried, but I am still TERRIFIED of this surgery and wish like hell I had never heard of it and did not need it. I need it. I know that, but I wish more than anything that I didn't. I hope this most is not too much of a downer for a first post. Take care and thanks for listening.

Hi Shelly, welcome back! It's OK to feel afraid here. We have all been there no matter how much we wanted the surgery. It's pretty normal to feel worried and upset. Have you considered all the different surgeries that are available now? There are forums of all of these on OH. I am 64 and had a BMI of 70 when I had the lap band surgery last October and I am thrilled with the surgery. I was back to work in 5 days and had really no complications. I chose the band because I didn't want the more involved cutting with the other surgeries. My partner had the same surgery three weeks later. Keep hanging around here, reading and posting and asking questions. We will all try to give you support! Connie

Hi there! We all have been scared, or worried and with weight problems. Know we are here to listen and help whenever needed!~Ann~

Welcome old newbie, Don't let anyone push you one way or the other. This is a choice we have to make for ourself. I first started looking at getting the bypass back in jan 04, at the time when my ex was listening to me about my choice i wanted, he did tell me that if i did have the bypass we would be done. He said there were to many changes( he was married and his ex wife kicked him out after losing 175lbs with the bypass) and could not go with that again.. In oct 07 i was looking around at the thought of the bypass again. I have gone full force straight ahead with everything. I did get the approval on my first try, not sure how that happened. Now i have lost my job and going to use cobra next month for my surgery. I am starting to get a little freaked out by this myself, but I do know this is a whole new chance to life and i will not have to be the person in the background saying what if... We all are here for you, hugs... If i can be of any help just hit me up.. Scott

Hey there, These are def. the people to talk to if you are scared. I am totally the opposite..I am like;"HURRY HURRY HURRY". I cannot get all my pre op stuff done fast enough. Everyone here is behind you NO MATTER what you do or do not do.