Stupid zero tolerance

Ok as you have figured out by now I am a hag or fruit fly take your pick. (hopes no one is passing out from shock now. ) Anyway, last night at work I was joking with a friend that is gay and told him that he was gay and not a woman. Background: Someone asked him who "Jane" was and he said he was since he wanted the daffodils. Now the guy, I will call him John, laughed and didn't have a problem with it. My boss was telling me he has never came out at work and people just assume. I was thinking does this have to be like a gay annon meeting? "Hi, I'm John. And I'm gay." Does he have to announce to people and come out and say I am gay or can his words do the job? He told me about his b/f. Now if a guy tells me that I figure it's safe to assume he's gay. ANYWAY... it wasn't even him that complained it was the other chick. Since they are not pursueing it I get to keep my job, but it goes in my file that the comment was made and that we had a conversation about it.

So the gay guy has no problem with you mentioning the gayness, but someone else did and therefore you could have gotten in trouble? What on earth makes sense about that!!

Exactly! That's what I am mad about. It makes NO sense.

Now thats Just plain STUPID!! Ya know some people are so ******g Self RItious!! That chaps My ass.. its ok for you to be gay..But dont say anything.. God Forbid someone NOT have an issue with it! Sorry to hear that happened to you.. Im very blessed to be in a job where i can be Myself! and i dont have to hide! but i've not always been in this type of Job!! Huggz..

Yeah, this is probably the same chick who would have complained if the guy HAD come out and was talking about his "alternative lifestyle" or whatever the hell the narrow minded bigots are calling it these days. I just call it living. I'm so sorry you had to be the victim of someone's ignorance. I hope you're around when their Karma comes back and bites them on the bum!

Well, you might want to review your company's sexual harassment policy. The conversation could be termed "inappropriate" within the work place and may have offended the chick. Evidently you don't work in such an environment where such conversations aren't taken so personally or people are easily offended. So we have to watch ourselves from time to time. Unfortunately, that little notation in your file can come back to bite you in the butt. My partner is one of those people that don't discuss personal stuff at work; whereas, I'm totally different and I work with such a close knit group we tell almost everything. They know I'm a lesbian and although they've never met my partner they know about her and my manager even tells me about girlie sales my partner might be interested. Our group is so close we've attended the funerals of co-workers parents and we stick up for each other. You just probably have a prude at work. But be careful --please.