**gulp** i finally did it...
yeah, kensie's fine. i wasn't really all that worried about HER (i don't think anyway...) but more about the aftermath of me telling her. like, dealing with my MOM for one thing, dealing with other family members, dealing with kensie's school if it comes up there and with her classmates and their parents, etc. i just don't want kensie to be ostracized at school because of my lifestyle. it's hard enough being a kid these days you know?
I think you did the right thing. I have many gay friends. When my son got old enough to understand (about the same age as your daughter) I explained it to him. It was about the same time the word "gay" started getting used by his schoolmates as a term for something stupid. He also started getting crap for wearing GAP sweatshirts because the kids would tell him that meant "Gay And Proud". His answer? "What's wrong with that. We have lots of gay friends and they're GREAT!" (I really love my kid). Be proud of who you are. That's the best thing you can teach your daughter. I hope you start to feel better about your choice. It was a good one.
ya i've been putting this off for nearly a year now. i think i was scared to tell her because of what "could" have happened but also, i didn't want to tell her and then realize down the road that this ISN'T who i am and that it's just a faze i'm going through with rediscovering myself after wls. does that make sense? because that would REALLY confuse her, lols!!!
You made a smart choice. Sharing stuff with kids when you haven't figured it out yourself is not the best thing to do. You waited until you were more comfortable and sure of yourself. SMART GIRL. This is bound to come up again, and she'll probably have questions for you. Just be honest, keep it simple and I'm sure you'll both be fine.
i really wish that i could crack open her little skull and see what's going on inside of there. it's so hard to guage something like that because she isn't really giving me any feedback on it at all, lols. it was kind of like "oreally? huh... 
" and i hate to ask questions like how that makes her feel, etc. because i don't want to plant any ideas in her head or CAUSE her to feel a certain way when in reality she feels totally different.
but last night we finally got a couch delivered to our new house and were able to all three sit on it and watch a dvd together and eat like a family and i just couldn't help myself! katie went into the kitchen to refill her drink and i said "isn't this great??!? i just love being able to sit here together and eat and watch tv like a FAMILY!!!" katie said "yeah, i know." and kensie just giggled and shrugged and kep****ching the movie, lols.
so... idk WHAT kensie's thinking but i felt like it was a positive thing instead of her stomping off to her room in a huff or something. (idk why but that's kind of the response i was expecting to get to this whole thing. sort of a temper tantrum or something, idk...)
" and i hate to ask questions like how that makes her feel, etc. because i don't want to plant any ideas in her head or CAUSE her to feel a certain way when in reality she feels totally different.
but last night we finally got a couch delivered to our new house and were able to all three sit on it and watch a dvd together and eat like a family and i just couldn't help myself! katie went into the kitchen to refill her drink and i said "isn't this great??!? i just love being able to sit here together and eat and watch tv like a FAMILY!!!" katie said "yeah, i know." and kensie just giggled and shrugged and kep****ching the movie, lols.
so... idk WHAT kensie's thinking but i felt like it was a positive thing instead of her stomping off to her room in a huff or something. (idk why but that's kind of the response i was expecting to get to this whole thing. sort of a temper tantrum or something, idk...) If you find a way to get into a kid's skull and see what's there you let me know, ok? WE COULD MAKE MILLIONS. 
Seriously, if it's not over this it will be something else. I consider my kid to be a pretty "easy" kid and there's days when I really don't know if I"m doing it right. Mine is 12 and it's getting to the moody adolescent time. I'm trying to prepare myself for when I will be an intrusion in his life most of the time, instead of a welcome part. Communication is the most important thing, in my book anyway.
Seriously, if it's not over this it will be something else. I consider my kid to be a pretty "easy" kid and there's days when I really don't know if I"m doing it right. Mine is 12 and it's getting to the moody adolescent time. I'm trying to prepare myself for when I will be an intrusion in his life most of the time, instead of a welcome part. Communication is the most important thing, in my book anyway. 
ya exactly. and that's another reason i put off telling her. like i said in my previous response, i didn't want to tell her and then 6 months later realize that it was all a big mistake and that i'm really NOT gay. idk, i guess i really just wanted to be more comfortable in my own skin before i could confidently tell her ANYTHING about that.
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