Getting Nervous
Well, the invitations went out for our Civil Union and everything is falling into place. We are going for our rings this weekend. I'm waiting until 1 month before to get my outfit so I can get the right size. This is all so exciting. What's making me nervous is the RSVPs. I'm so unsure about some family members reactions to this and it's making me very nervous. 
I'm just hoping that those that do not want to attend will send back their RSVPs with decline, rather than not sending it back and me having to call them. I think that would be very awkward.
The good thing is, now when I'm nervous and stressed, I don't want to eat. This has got to be the biggest change since surgery.
Rachelle
I'm just hoping that those that do not want to attend will send back their RSVPs with decline, rather than not sending it back and me having to call them. I think that would be very awkward.
The good thing is, now when I'm nervous and stressed, I don't want to eat. This has got to be the biggest change since surgery.
Rachelle 
Congratulations! Don't assume that people don't respond because they have a position on your union, though. When my husband and I got married, I had something like 15 people I had to chase. Some of them, believe it or not, didn't know what RSVP meant, or one thing I got was "I didn't know I really had to do that." No, I just spent all that money on cardstock and stamps for giggles! 
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who are socially inept. Maybe there will be some who have an opinion on your union. So what? There were people who had a negative opinion of my husband marrying me because I was married before. His parents literally walked right by us in the receiving line (I got that on video). I put it down to "it's their problem and isn't mine unless I choose it to be".
So you two go have fun and celebrate the miracle of two lives becoming one!
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who are socially inept. Maybe there will be some who have an opinion on your union. So what? There were people who had a negative opinion of my husband marrying me because I was married before. His parents literally walked right by us in the receiving line (I got that on video). I put it down to "it's their problem and isn't mine unless I choose it to be".
So you two go have fun and celebrate the miracle of two lives becoming one! 
I don't know if I have any right to say this but. Why do you feel the need to invite people that don't agree with what you are doing? It is your wedding day! You should only be surrounded by people that love you respect you and understand you and what you are doing and only wishes you and your spouse the best! I say don't invite anyone you feel might make you or anyone feel bad and awkward, this day should happen with only the love and admiration of your closest friends and family.
Hi Kenny. You have a right to say whatever you want. I post things to get peoples opinions.
We've been together for 16 years, so everyone knows. While everyone we invited seems ok, you never know how they feel about an actual wedding. I've thought alot about it and I'm going to be happy even if there are 5 of us there. I love Chris and that's that!
Rachelle
Social ineptitude seems to be at epidemic proportions sometimes. Some people also think "well, of course, you know I'm going to be there". I went to an Indian Wedding one time where almost nobody RSVP'd everyone showed up like an hour late and nobody thought anything of it. Cultural thing in that case.
Make sure you post a wedding picture ok?
CONGRATS Rachelle!!!! They only advice I can give you is what I have done with my surgery. If you tell someone and they are not in the positive about it. Don't bring it up again. If they don't come because of how they feel, it's their loss. Have they known about Chris for all 13 (is it 13?) years? If they haven't accepted the fact that you are with her by now they have serious issue and you really don't want them at your Union. And if you do have to call someone, just remember we love you here and they are just insecure and petty, even if they are your family. My mother-in-law came to my wedding and made it memorible. She told my mom in front of me that IF we made it to our one year anniversary she would throw us a party. She also got pissy when we told her we would understand if they couldn't make it since we gave 3 1/2 weeks notice. She had a fit and was screaming "what would people say if I didn't go?" You get the idea how she is. Do you really want that there? So relax and just think about how you will be better off without them there.
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