Observations and Updates

Nobody told me when I got this surgery and lost enormous amounts of weight, that it wouldn't be just me going through these changes. The whoie world around me seems to be changing as well. Something that I'm not used to is being "hot." For 32 years, I was the funny fat guy. I was sweet. I was, at best, cute. Since I've lost weight, I've been called gorgeous, pretty, handsome, beautiful and hot. Not thoughts of my own, but others. Don't get me wrong. I don't see this as a problem. I love the attention. I love being cruised. I still have a problem reacting to it the wrong way, though, with somewhat hilarious results... Related to the above paragraph (as some roll their eyes at the list of adjectives I wrote), I have always been a confident person. My self esteem has always been high and I have always thought well of myself. Why, when I considered myself good-looking when I was 380 pounds, peoples' reactions were, ahh... Good for him. He's got good self esteem. Now, at 180, if I say I think that I'm good looking, people roll their eyes and say, "what a conceited **** " Same person. Same comment. Different reaction. Another thing I've had to watch is my sense of humor. I have a really dry and sarcastic sense of humor and used to be able to say things that were, well, forgiveable because people thought they were coming from an overweight, obviously bitter individual (although I was never bitter.) Now, no one feels sorry for me and I have to watch what I say. When I make the same jokes I'm just plain an asshole. I sometimes forget how physically different I am and am surprised by it. At work today, a guy had his truck tailgate open for us to sit on during break. When I sat on it, the truck didn't groan and the tailgate didn't settle mere inches from the ground. It barely moved! The others I was with didn't notice, but I smiled a bit myself. Yesterday, I was laying with my boyfriend on his sofa. My head was on his stomach and I kept asking if he could breathe okay. Finally, he just yelled, "You're not 380 anymore!" and laughed. Update wise, this boyfriend is a new one. My partner (in the pictures) and I broke up in August. It had little to do with my changes, but it was a relationship that was pretty much over months before I ended it officially. I just wanted to enjoy life as a new single, but I met someone a couple of months ago who I could really fall for. I'm kind of angry (not) that he made me cut my single escapading shorter than I wanted it to be (I'm 32 now. How many more can I have?) but he just might be worth it. As I said before, I'm down to 180 now and am kind of concerned. This is the weight I wanted to be when I had my tummy tuck and I didn't think I'd be there until at least the beginning of next year. Being 5'9, my ideal weight is 165. So, I figured with the removal of 10-15 pounds, I'd be right there. But I haven't been referred or anything to a plastic surgeon yet. And I'm still losing 3-5 pounds a week. I'm almost concerned that it won't stop (I know it will one day), and that when I have my surgery, I'll end up looking like Nicole Richie late 2006. Sorry to be long winded, but I just had to bring these observations up. What other things have you noticed changing besides your shirt and pant sizes? I want to thank everyone here for their support and wish you all a great Thanksgiving. (I'll have my egg drop soup and stuffing ready.) I have a couple of new pics on my profile. Chris

Chris When I read this, it was totaly my story. I thought I got up and wrote it in my sleep! I get the same exact thing. The world does view you in a different light. I always chave commanded presence but now I take up less room but have the same (maybe a little more attitude). I love going to Abercrombie and get all the help from the girls there, back at 320 pounds I would have got no help (like anything would fit LOL). Happy Turkey Day Denise

Hey Chris and Dennis I'm a lot older than y'all...and it seems different////going form the "safe Guy" to being a threat...people do treat you different...and even though i'm not intrested..the ladies are aggressive The relationships do take a beating....i'm still working on that one.... I did buy and A&F shirt...just because I had never had one...I was the old guy in the store... I think you both look hot.... play hard and play safe Russ

It's the guns, Russ. Even us lipstick lesbians like the guns!!! XOXOXO, Sharyn Nurse2b

blush Russ

I have an observation. You are hot. I rarely come to this board. For some reason, I did today and your pic caught my eye. I read your profile. Congrats on the great weight loss and new life. Mine has been quite the roller coaster, too. I think it comes with the territory. Just remember, enjoy the ride...cause its damn short.

Hey you are HOT.....I have mentioned that before For someone who has gained and lost large amounts of weight since High School I can tell you with out a doubt that some people will treat you differently due to your appearance. I have found my close friends have accepted me no matter what size.....others have not adapted so well. I am a funny guy.....I know at one time it was my to cope with being heavy and somewhat crazy. I am still funny.....although some people find my crude rude and highly innappropriate.....but love me or leave me.....I am willing to adapt.....but I am not going to change to make people like me.....so be happy...enjoy your new "HOT" status....I have been there and I am working to get back there....Sean

Chris, I agree with everyone that you are very HOT! What you said is so true too. I don't consider myself hot because of my age, but I definately feel good about myself. Maybe it has something to do from going from a size 48 down to size 30. LOL I even mentioned to my boss recently how I've changed and she said, "you're much more confident, right." She was so right. I don't feel like the poor fat boy anymore and I'm loving it. Think maybe that has something to do why I want a divorce. hmmmm Congratulations on your great success and on the new boyfriend. Just Me