Good Morning All, need to vent
Hello all,
Has been awhile since i last posted...so much has been happening lately...First off...i have been stalled in the 240s for almost a year....i have been drinking sodas...i know i shouldn't...also finding trhat my pouch has allowed me to eat more...guess its stretching...since i found out that plastics were pretty much out of the question....things have went down hill....i came down with a bad infection on my face last month...the docs said they felt it was a staff infection....i felt there was more to it.....i went to the health department for HIV testing, i was told if things came back bad...i would get a call quickly...well no word....so after a week or so i called them.....the lady there told me that my results was back...she said they couldn't give them out over the phone...but did add that iff anything bad had came back...i would have got a call....so...i felt i was negative and in the clear....well a week later i got a call from the health department said i needed to come in...i ask if this was about my test...she said all she could tell me was that we had alot to talk about....well i went in...and she proceded to tell me that my test had caame back and i am HIV positive...she ask all kinds of questions about my health, i told her that i attribtted all issues to gastric bypass....anyway..i have a appoointment with the infectious disease doctor in Janurary....My man Allen has been tested ansd so far he is negative for everything...you guys say a prayer that he will stay that way....bad thing is i found out i was positive on our 1 year anniversary......Anyway..old habbits are trying their damndest to come back..i have always been a stress eater.....as of today im at 250.....i honestly feel i can live with being HIV positive easier than i can live with being morbidly obese again....so any suggestions PLEASE help...im not comfortable posting this here as this is a small community and i feel if this gets out i will be as though i have the plague....but i need support BAD, Allen and my ex wife are doing all they can........but its so rough...i feel like i went through so much to feel good, look good...and here i am....but i think i have always heard that alot of peoples sex drive goes rampant after surgery.......im considering researching this and working on a lecture....would like tho think i can help anyone avoid this.....any input will be greatly appreciated.....and thanks for listening...
Randy
PS i did also add some new pics..Hope you all have a great week..
Randy,
First of all, you did a great job coming here to vent and get some support on this. It's not easy to reach out at the hard times.
Remember, if you are taking care of your body, doing the right things for yourself should be supporting both your efforts at maintaining your weight and keeping yourself healthy with the HIV. This is not an either/or proposition.
Chances are that you originally got this surgery because you care about yourself and your well-being. This is good news, because that same caring is going to help you through this.
There are treatments available today that can keep you healthy for a long, long time. Do yourself a favor and keep in mind that you have a lot of control right now over how healthy you are going to be. Your general overall health is going to contribute greatly to how well your body handles this disease.
Keep coming back here and talking about how you are doing, if you can. It can only help.
Zandra Q
O.K. ...HIV is now pretty much considered a chronic disease. It does have its challenges. Try to take a step back....slow things down. I know this is easier said...than done.....I myself am struggling with emotional eating.....I am trying to get on track....and I am slowly getting there. Your goal right now is to MAINTAIN your weight.....If you go to the gym concentrate on that...it can help. Stay busy with what ever you can.....go hobby crazy.....I suffer from depression. I find I need a push to get me rolling in the right direction......and have learned I have to keep busy or I will sit in the kitchen....and eat. Find your self a support group !!! on line or in person!!!! There are still pretty good support out there for people living with HIV......I would encourage you to get a therapist if you do not have one.....they are great to unload on...and not feel guilty you are bothering some one. If you have one ...time to ostart seeing them .....MORE......O.K. I hope you do not feel I am lecturing you...I am a psych nurse so I do that...but "WE" call it teaching.......Stop by the board is starting to perk up.....Sean
Well, Randy, that just sux! I am sure it was not an easy thing to hear. No appointment with the infectious disease doc till January? That seems a long time. Like Sean said, concentrate on keeping healthy and maintaining right now. I thought men's sex drive was rampant at all times! (smile) Take care of yourself and let us know what we can do to help, ok?
Barbara
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Hey Randy. That had to have been hard news to take. I do know that you need to keep yourself as healthy as you can and try to maintain your weight. I'm sorry that you have to wait so long to see the infectious disease Dr. Will you be starting on medication before that, or do you have to wait until then?
I'm glad to hear that Allen tested negative....keep it that way. Use protection and make sure he gets tested regularly.
Rachelle
Hi Randy,
I'm very Sorry to hear of your situation.. it Cant be easy.. HIV is something that touches all of us weather we want to admit it or not.. the most important thing for you i believe is your trying to maintain a positive attitude. I cant tell you how important that is. By watching your attitude you can control your eating better. and Vent Here as much as you need to relieve any pressure.. i know WE cant do much.. but listening is a forte! I wish you all the luck and health in your journey!
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