Family-weight loss and acceptance

I am avoiding seeing my family until I have lost more weight. My father has always been critical of my weight....It always came up in about the first 5 sentences out of his mouth. Russ actually noticed this about 5 years ago....My father is not aware he does it He is wonderful and caring.....he is concerned about my health.....but it is still hard to take. I have always been heavy and it has always been an issue....so I cannot wait to see their reactions.......And for acceptance I have been blessed with accepting and loving family......Russ is "Uncle Russ" and I think most of the time my nieces and nefews enjoy seeing him more than me.....We were not giong to have a wedding. We were going to go to City Hall and get married there. We were leaving on a trip to China in a couple of weeks and for legal reasons....Then our friends and families got wind of it.....and well I started planning the wedding the Monday before labor day weekend...We got married on Labor Day with 24 Guests (the capacity of the room). I was totally suprised how accepting my extended family was ...My father has 3 sisters and 2 brothers.....They are much older than my father.......I have about 235 cousins who I see a couple of times a year...On average.....THEY HAVE BEEN AWSOME....I am blessed...........HOW ABOUT YOU GUYS ???

As far as the weight, my Mom has always had issues with my weight. I think it's because she has struggled with her weight all of her life, although she has never been MO. We went on our first diet together when I was about 11. I'm sure it was Weigh****chers. My Mother swears by WW. Our families are quite accepting of us. As many of you know, me and Chris are planning our Civil Union for March 2008. We have told some family members so they can save the date and we have gotten wonderful responses of mostly congratulations. My family loves Chris and I even think my Mom likes her better than me. Rachelle

I had to stop my mother from bringing up weight about 10 years ago--I always dreaded seeing her--she was also doing it out of concern since she's about my pre-op size. We were at the hospital visiting my father and she brought it up again, and I took her aside and said, "I love Dad and I want to be here with him, but I will leave if you bring up weight again." Never heard about it again. By the way, this was very outside my comfort zone!!! Now, since my surgery, after I had lost about 25 lbs. (Not very noticeable at all), she asked if I had lost any weight and let me know that it was not observable at all. Habits die hard...