WHAT IS IN MY BRAIN.....QUESTION OF THE DAY !!!!

ALL of my life a large part of my identity was based on my size.....I have always been "The big Guy" "The cuddly Big Teddy Bear" "LARGER than life"........I am really wondering how a drastic change in my appearance is going to affect my identity......If I am not the "Big Guy" ...What next ????? Anyone else wrestling with this ??? In our community we are big on Idenifying ourselves not just by behavior but also appearance. Terms like Bear, Twink, Bull Dyke, Lipstick lesbian...ECT. ECT...are all labels that many of us "OWN".what happens when our physical appearance no longer fits the Identity.......What do you Think.........

idk... i really am having a time coming to grips with who i am right now JUST on the wls end of things. not to mention that i got into a relationship with someone when i was about 6 months out and now i'm having to try to understand where i fit in in society as a whole. i've always considered myself as bi but now i'm in a strictly lesbian relationship and it's so much more than what i've ever experienced in straight relationships. BUT i have a nearly 8 year old daughter who doesn't know i'm gay (even though my gf lives with us, lol!!) so yeah, idk...

Hmmm...it's funny...I really don't identify in our community by my size. Maybe it's just because I have been so domestic for the past 15 years. When we did go out, I was the big girl with a mini skirt, make up and big earrings. Come to think of it, I looked more like *** hag than the lesbian that I am. If I went out in jeans, sweatshirt and sneakers, I still wore makeup and earrings. Someone once told me I was confusing the women because they didn't know what I was. Now with my family, it's another story. I've always been the biggest girl in my entire family. That's going to change and I think it's going to be harder on them to fit me into there mind picture of our family.

Yes young sean beleive it or not...you go from bear to gym rat....it's a mind trip this is my first post and I don;t want to be over "bearing" but we can chat if you like russ

Can we call you "Big-E-Little" ? You can double as a Rapper !!! Keep up the good work! -Karen

Interestingly enough, before surgery I had gotten to the point where I didn't feel sexy at all, especially "girl" sexy. I didn't go out, didn't look at girls, didn't identify at all. It's just since this first 70lbs has come off that I've started to think that I might have a girl life again. Interesting, isn't it?