i have gained 23 lbs

My hersband and I broke up in May and I started dating a man after 14 years. Needless to say we drink everyday. Now I don't but I drank every day for month. Trying to cover up my feelings and emotions for her. I covered and tried to cover up my feeling now I really miss her and want her back. sexy in nj

Hey girl, I miss talking to you. I just wanted to say that I am so sorry that you are going through this, I really hope that you and your girl can work it out. I think you should have a long time with her and let her know how you feel, so that you and your girl can find yourself back to each other. We are here to motivate you and help take off the 23 pounds, but when you are stress and going through something emotional it can cause you to eat. But if you need us we are here to help you throught this trying time. Call me if you want to talk 414-248-5900 you have my email address email me if you want to talk. I am here for you.

I tried to call you today. u didnt leave a name

I am sorry to hear that. The two of you should talk and try to work things out or at the very least get everything talked out. Men and booze are not the way to go... jeremy

Thanks J, but I am bi ............ I have been bi since I was 7. She cheated on me with a 19 yr old girl . She left me stuck with so many bills I just didnt' see my way out. I was in the hosptial for depression and high blood pressure. This marriage has done a job on me. We have tried to talk. She says one thing and does another . She wants to come screw my world up and then go back home to hers. She and this child ( she is 40 yrs old and her hoe is 19) - the girl went to get inve-tro. There is nothing left to talk about . ITs done ........... I can't go back. Waiting for my divorce papers in the mail and to cover this tattoo up. I am hurt broken. Tried to move on and date a man after 14 yrars and that is also a disaster. There are too many things I was used to when dating women that I just can't except or tolerate from me being bi. sexy in nj :wave: question - why do you go by a mans name ? are u trans

Hey there Akilah, I hope you don't mind me putting in my two cents. I have read your post then your response to Jeremy and you seem conflicted. Like you want her back in your heart, but your mind won't allow it because you know she isn't good for you. Am I getting it? If so, here is my advice... It is time to let go. You know this woman isn't good for you. She cheated on your and left you in a financial bind. It would be one thing if she had just cheated, because everyone makes mistakes, but she didn't even do right by you on her way out the door. I know your hear, or at least part of it still has love for her, but step away from that for a moment and put yourself out of the situation. If your friend was cheated on by her lover and left with all the bills while that lover went off with some young new thing what would you tell your friend to do? So you knew that already, but why is it so hard? Why are you still, at least in part, still in love with her? The reason is you have not allowed your heart to greive over the loss of this lover. She was a big part of your life and your heart has to cry, scream, yell, break down, sniffle, and moan over the empty space she used to fill. You can't drowned those things out with substitute lovers, be they men or women; nor can you use alcohol or food... You have to let yourself be sad. Because as you can see you have only postponed the process and by doing so have made it last far too long. So give yourself permission to be sad, upset, angry, mad, and all the other things you need to be so you can eventually move on. It won't go away all at once, but slowly it will fade. One day you will realize the part of you that is better about it all is stronger than the part that isn't, and a corner will be turned. Anyone who was once a true love won't ever fully leave our hearts, but we can find a way to reconcile the mind and heart into a love lost, not a love lingering... I wish you the best in this, I have been there and know how tough it is. But you are a strong woman, I can tell. Really anyone who can admit they are bisexual, gay, trans, or whatever has the strength within them to get past even the greatest love lost because they loved themself enough once to step out in faith and be who they really were! You have my support and the support of all of us here on this board!!!!

wow, Cam What can I say .........this is the best advise I have recieved I must admit. I just keep going through things over and over again. I know I have to let her go. Her girl went to the invetro clinic and she became pregnant. I must admit I wished she lost the baby because it just hasn't been fair. I know that Vengence is mine sayeith the lord and I know that the battle is mine not yours but I didn't see anything or hear anything negative happening to her. She came over last week to toy with my feeling , get me open just to push me away because this girl was pregnant .......now she lost the baby. After the incident last thursday I decieded that .......this is it ! I won't be used and abused anymore ...I am going to stand my ground and let this chapter in my life go. On the other hand I began my release and attempted to put my postive energy in my boyfriend. Saturday he had a lil attitude so I left around 4pm and he was m.i.a. until Tuesday morning............. I checked all the hospitals and jails - then he calls me tuesday morning and has the nerve to say he was in pekepssee ny. My question was so you could't call. No one had a phone , you left with the same clothes on for 3 days and didn't have enough respect for me at all. So I said that is a wrap and I can't go back. I don't deserve this mistreatment and disrespect. All I have done for him when he nothing ..........long story. I have given so much of myself and I tried to hard because I hadn't dated a man for 14 years .....debating with God and my bisexualaity. It bothers me .........two failed relationships in 6 months. I need some me time. I just don't understand. Thanks for your advise. You seem to understand what I am going through. feel free to email me seperately sexy in nj :wave: