Sex w/ partner after surgery....

I was wondering if sex has been differerent with your long term partner after surgery. Did it become more frequent or slow down to a stand still? Was your partner more attracted or less? Was it just completely different? My worry is that my partner fell in love with the big me...will she still want a smaller version.

Hi Sophia I had the same worries as you. My gf of 6 years has always said that she likes a "big girl"! So, I asked her.. If you like a "big girl", will you still be attracted to me as I loose weight?? Her answer was " I love you no matter what size you are". It's been 6 months since my surgery and the sex is more frequent, better and we experiment more. My confidence was low and I felt very bad about myself as I gained weight so I came up with every excuse in the book not to have sex before surgery. Now I have lost 180 lbs, I feel great, know I look better and more flexible. She always says.. Thank GOD for Dr. Huffman (my surgeon) after we finish. Tell your partner how you feel and ask her about the "smaller version" of you. Kay 450/388/270/175

I have actually spoken with my partner about this. Her response is that she loves me but she doesn't know if she will be attracted. Talk about a blow. I didn't get the pat answer, which in a way I guess I was hoping for. I don't think it is so much getting smaller, but the extra skin. ` I will just have to make sure she doesn't lose interest.

I understand your concern about the extra skin.. I love lOTS and most of it is in my inner thighs. I still have 95 lbs. to loose so I know it's going to get worse. At first I was feeling bad about it but she assured me that the skin does not bother her. She likes the fact that I'm happier with me and likes my confident at this point. Once you accept the things that come along with wls like hair loss and extra skin, your confidence shines brighter than the little problems. Good luck in your journey!

Thank you!

My partner says she loves me regardless - big, small, tall, short no matter what i look like because it is what is inside that she loves. it don't matter what the container looks like the ingredients are still the same.... if she loves you now she will love you later. and the sex - let me tell you WHOO-WHEE!!!! It is FREAKIN fantastic!!!

Thank you guys! Your words mean A LOT to me.

well, I had a negative experience. It was all me though. I couldn't stand the skin ......especially my breast. I hated them. I would give her some maybe once every two weeks and it was only because she would damn near beg me. I became very depressed I lost my sex drive and became very withdrawn from sex. I started taking medication and and everything . Needless to say we were married 4/13/2005 and we are now seperated , i put her out may 3,2006 and we are getting a divorce. She is 40 and cheated on me with a 19 year old child. I am now exploring my bisexual side after 14 years. sexy in nj :wave: