Do you find yourself getting angry a lot?

Have you found yourself getting frustrated and angry at people a lot more frequently after the surgery? I have been experiencing this a lot recently. Before when people said some thing mean to me or talked down at me I would shut up and walk away, then I would eat a burger or two to deal with the stress and anger. Now since food is not the escape I can run to, I have to actually deal with the anger and frustration. How do you deal with this?

You are dealing with it. You are allowing yourself to feel the anger and frustration rather than muffling it with food. It's a healthy thing to do, but it's definitely not easy. Rachelle

ANGRY? No not actually, at least not about comments to me. In fact, I think I have become more tolerant. Sort of like "I have a secret and I don't want to share it with you!" Someone the other day made a comment about "Fat A**ed People". D (my DW) looked at me and asked "Do you want to tell or should I?" Personally? I would rather not tell. Not to someone so intolerant, that would probably lead to stupid questions. I am the first to tell people "I had bypass surgery" when they ask me "WOW! You really lost weight! How much did you lose? How did you do it?" But those are people who are truly, genuinely interested. Interested in me and my health not in trying to find something else to dog me about. I have to say tho' that I am more easily angered by "stupid people" these days, guess I never realized how much I suppressed before when I could "Eat it all away". Who are "stupid people"? People who don't think before they speak, they say mean and hurtful things, not to me to other people. People who hurt other people to make themselves feel better and people who have been doing a job for YEARS and still ask the exact same questions over & over & over. I know everyone has a bad day and I do make room for those days (heaven knows that I have major brain farts now and then) but these are people that just DON'T THINK. Had a nurse call me the other day and ask me "How much blood do you need in the tube to do this test?" Told her "those tubes don't have a full draw and only draw about 1/2 anyways" She says "I have about a fourth of a tube" I tell her "It only draws about 1/2 and if you have a quarter that is good" Her reply? (keep in mind "stupid people") " But I don't have a quarter I only have a fourth"?????????????GO FIGURE!!!!!!! This is an RN!!!! Hurtful things? My 13 yr old neice and 11 yr old cousin are pitchers on the same Traveling All-Star Team. They played all weekend this past weekend, in 90 degree heat. They pitched 3 games each. They won 1 game 15-5 another 23-5. Instead of the coach leaving the line-up alone and just switching pitchers, he kept moving girls around the field. Not substituting with girls who didn't get to play, moving the girls. Krystal went from Pitching (1st inning) Designated Hitter(2nd inning) Catcher (3rd inning) Pitching (4th inning) Designated Hitter (5th inning). We kept telling her "You have to do what is best for the team". He moved their awesome little shortstop to Left center and put in a girl *****fused to bend over to catch the ball. When they lost that game, miserably, he took the whole team over away from the parents and told the ENTIRE team "We lost because of our pitching" I then had 2 hysterical little girls. No mention from the coach that in spite of being the youngest team in the league they managed to finish in 3rd place, the team that had beat them had made it to that game with only 1 loss (as did our girls) and no one expected them to get that far. This idiot point blank laid the blame on 2 little girls in front of the entire team. When they told us what got said I looked right at the coach and said "Remember girls, you won as a team and you lost as a team. It is about good sportsmanship and teamwork.You might have been pitching but there was a whole team out there on the field with you. The problem was you were OUT COACHED!!!" Have you ever heard a pro coach say "we lost today because our pitcher S**Ked?" NO and they pay those guys MILLIONS of dollars to play that game. I just wanted to slap that man, HARD!!!!!!! BUT I didn't. Can't remember when I have been angrier!!!!!!!! Oh well, but I didn't go home and eat a pounder bag of chips. I griped the whole way home but I didn't try to stuff that anger down deep inside, instead I had dealt with it, to the best of my ability anyways. We definitely feel things much more clearly when we aren't numbing ourselves with food. Usually feels pretty good, to feel things I mean not being angry LOL Sorry this was so long, Ciao 4 now, Berta

Boy I hear you about the intolerance of stupid people. Unfortunately, I had a pretty big intolerance of stupid people before I had my surgery. I work in the in-patient pharmacy in the largest hospital in Northwest Ohio, and I have had more than one RN call and ask me how many milliliters are in a cubic centimeter. For those who unfamiliar with those, one milliliter is the same as one cubic centimeter. I had one nurse who wouldn't believe me when I told her they were the same thing. Nurses should know all of the measurement equivalents. I can do this stuff in my sleep and my job doesn't require any post-secondary education or licensing. Rhonda

I don't get 'angry', but I do find that I am less tolerant of bigoted, socially inept jerks. Before I would just look at them like they were 'slime'...which they were...but now that I've lost a couple of hundred pounds...I was initally quiet, and reserved, but at some point I decided that enough was enough and let them have a piece of my mind....If someone is standing on my last nerve, and they really deserve it, I'll skin 'em and salt 'em...if they deserve it. I may not have my previous heft and weight to intimidate them...but I have become much more eloquent in bringing out thier classlessness.