update on relationship issues

What is up family???? I have not been on here for a month or so...I have been on an emotional rollercoaster with my relationship. As some of you may have read prior, my five year relationship came to a halt one month post op. The love of my life was having an internet affair. We have been through some emotional trying times. We are still living together, and trying to support each other through it all. I want to work things out. But, Brenda wants to persue this other relationship. We are trying to disolve our partnership and work on being friends. It is hard though. I have made up my mind, that I will not wake up sad anymore, and I am seeking new people to fill my life with. She will always be my truest friend, and I will always love her. But I can't just sit and watch her carry on feelings for this other person. However, she became enraged with jealousy when she found out I posted on match.com...and began making connections to other people. i am going through some counciling right now, to keep myself healthy. i am very proud of the fact that I have not tried to sabatoge myself and medicate with food! So there is a lot for me to celebrate. i am trying to keep my attitude and outlook positive! Anyway, I am down 75 pounds, in just three months! I have posted new pics of myself. Feel free to check out my profile! Joy

Joy~ Nice to see you posting after being away. I'm sorry you are going through this struggle with your gf but happy to hear that you are moving on and working on YOU! Thanks for sharing your new pic. You are HOT! Congratulations on the 75 lbs. Take Care Kay

Joy, I am very sorry to hear about the relationship problems. Five years is a long time for things to end. Congrats to you on the 75lbs that is awesome. Keep your head up and try to remeber that when one door closes another one will always open. Best of luck to you, Melissa

Enduring the ending of a relationship is one of the toughest things a person has to go through, but sounds like you're on the right track. Sometimes you feel you're all alone, but rest assured, we're all here for you. I'm glad to hear you've not turned to food for comfort as it's so easy to do in a situation like this. Stay focused and you'll do fine. I do wish I had a quick fix for you, but you know as well as I, that time will heal your heart. And it's good that you and Brenda want to remain friends. I imagine it's difficult still living under the same roof knowing what's going on, but try not to dwell on it. I realize that's very difficult, but no sense in making yourself more miserable. And yes, it's easy for me to say as I'm not in the middle of a break-up.......but, you will get through it. Just remember that. Kudos for your 75 lb weight loss! You should be proud and always remember it's you you're doing this for, no one else. Keep your head held high. Vicki

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am in the same situation. I have been living with my girl for 13 years and this is the second internet affair. We are too still living together and trying to get thru it all. It has been hardest on me and she doesn't seem to be having a problem with it. If you want to chat to support each other, please feel free to email me. Good luck and keep good spirits. Pat

i am sorry to hear about your relationship, that is horrible. keep your head up and remember that there are always friends here at obesity help to listen... the bad times cannot last forever, they never do... take care of you jeremy ferch 500/337/200(goal at moment)

Thank you to all who have sent me words of encouragement, through this difficult situation! I appreciate it more than you know. Nice to know there are caring people out there in the world! Thanks, Joy