ANGRY ALL OF THE TIME SINCE WLS!!!!

Hey Girl, I just read your post and I agree with everyone. I think hormones do play a part in this. I think you are completely correct in being proactive about your situation. It is always best to look at positive or negative changes in yourself in a situation first. All of the advise has been excellent and I agree wholeheartedly; however.....lol I also tend to agree with Lisa's post and started thinking about the way the "world" dealt with me after WLS. I remember feeling a little out of control like "everything" was spinning and changing; not just my body. I got angry because I was still the same inside, but all of a sudden I was smarter, prettier, funnier and more "me" that "I" ever was (to everyone else). I was like H. & R. Block; people were listening. I got mad at that; as if I was invisible before. I even started to resent men. I thought, "You had better not come over here and bat your eyes at me now, jerk". You couldn't see my heart before and now all of a sudden, you think I am loving and wonderful person? Yeah right........ I have always felt that being obese in some ways gives you the ability to be more empathetic towards the world in general. I have also said that Fat people are some of the nicest people in the world. We are loyal, loving and kind. We will give you the shirt off of our backs if it will bring you comfort. We never want another human to suffer pain. We deny ourselves so that others may have. We have beautiful souls and we try to fit into a world that says pretty jump in and fat jump back. Body fat is not always a tomb, it can be a womb or a cocoon too. We can hide behind fat. I know I did. We may not know it, but we tell people that we are less than we are. You know that old: "It's ok to hurt a fat girl, she can't feel it anyway she is too busy being jolly". We swallow other peoples bitterness (a line from my favorite movie). When we finally emerge from the cocoon it is then that the changes take place. You see........now you've changed the rules. You are one of the beautiful people. I didn't have a lot of self confidence, before WLS. I thought myself a little funny, pretty and smart; I suppose. But when I lost weight and found out.......I was way off. Apparently, I wasn't any of those things to some people until the exact moment I my dress size dropped. At times, I felt as though I had not become a human being with thoughts and feelings until the scale said........"And now you may exist!" Girl, you shine! You always have. It's just a little brighter now because your burdens are a less heavy. That brighter light is beautiful. Those who love you have always seen it and those who didn't see it wish they had that same light you posses and are probably intimidated. Some people around you may feel that they have to redefine how they deal with you. They have to stop and think now before they speak. You are this totally new person (in their eyes). When we meet new people what do we do? We figure out who they are and what their boundaries are. Folks are trying you girl! Keep that in mind too before you pray. "Lord they are tryin me again Lord! Please help not go there on them!" There is also the fact that your light is brighter and your load is lighter and you know it.....LOL. GO Girl! You deserve your Miss America stroll too! dance: But as my mother says...Learn to use your powers for good and not evil......LOL I don't know about you, but being treated differently really bothered me and I did lash out; sometimes justifiably and sometimes at the wrong people. I had to learn to recognize when I needed to check myself and I tried to be humble when I needed to be checked. I got past it any you will too. Take each day as it comes. Plan for the future but live in the now. You have done something wonderful for yourself; for the preservation of your beautiful life. In someway you have to relearn the whole world and that can be frustrating and in others an awesome adventure.