Did anyone Grieve for Foods that they could no longer eat?

I saw a lady on Oprah once and she had WLS. She said she would actually grieve for food she could no longer eat. This kinda concerns me since I can be a bit of an emotional eater at times. This will not stop me from having the surgery but I would like to know if this has happened to anyone and how they coped

God, yes... I am 1 month post op and I have my moments. I have to say that the first few weeks were the worst and I am slowly learning to resist those thoughts. I have joined the gym and, since I don't eat much anymore, I take my lunch to swim. This has helped me feel better and not mind missing the food. I believe a Psychologist would call that addiction transferral... better swimming than crack...

Thanks so much for responding! Its good to hear that others are dealing with the same issues and can give you options.

At first, I did grieve, so did my husband because food was such a big part of our lives. He used it to "reward" me. LOL - sad but true! I don't grieve anymore, so know it doesn't have to be a permanent thing. In my mind before surgery, I thought that I would NEVER be able to eat "good" food again, but I was willing to make the sacrifice. Now I have new favorite foods and am able at almost eleven months to eat a tiny bit of anything. The big difference is that I am now really satisfied with one or two bites of something rather than "needing" the whole bag...hope this makes sense. When I go to France, I will still eat a crepe, and in Italy, I will buy gelato, but I will be able to stop without going numb!!! I don't miss that "numb" feeling...thought that would be tougher.

Thanks Becky for your honesty, so glad to hear I will be able to enjoy some of the things I like to eat again.

Oh my Caren, You have read my thoughts with this post. I am preop and when my surgeon called with a date I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach... knowing my love affair with food was ending. Ohhh, I'm never gonna pass my psych test with this kind of thinking! Grieving is the perfect word and I am so glad you know how I'm feeling. "Normal people" in my life have no idea... Barb

Barb, Thanks so much for responding to this post its great to see others feel the same way and can help you sort things out. The same thing happened to me January 2004 when I was approved for the surgery the office called with a surgery date and I completely shut down and decided I could not go through with it. I was too dependent on my best buddy food. After that I lost almost 30 lbs. on my own and have gained most of it back. I've come to the realization that I need to have this surgery and change my life for good so that I live a healthier lifestyle and feel better about myself. I have lost 8 lbs. of the 10-15 lbs. of the required preop weight I was told I must lose or I will be denied!! It's so hard but I want this so bad I am going to do it! You will past your psych eval. Hang in there and keep me posted. We can go through this together.

Honestly, no. Once I was on solid foods, I wanted to try some of my old favorites (pizza, etc) and one bite or two and I realized they were not that great anymore. People say this surgery changes your tastes, and it sure has for me. After sampling a few of my old favorites, I decided I did not care that much for them any more!

Thanks Kia hope that happens to me

Yes, and no. No, I really haven't grieved for the loss of anything specific, unless perhaps it's a hazelnut latte once in a while. I'm 3 months out and can have a little bit of most anything, and really am satisfied with a little bit. And my tastes have definitely changed. Even our bottled spring water that we've had delivered for years no longer tastes right... we moved to distilled water. The "yes" part is that I definitely miss having more of a selection of stuff at a meal. I miss the crunch of potato chips, and having crackers in a cup of chili. But those are small things to give up in exchange for the 60 lbs. I've lost, and the blood pressure medication I no longer need to take, and the lowered cholesterol, etc., etc. Hang in there, and understand that this is a tool, which definitely WILL help with those cravings. Cheryl