Did your husbands freak out before surgery?

My hubby and I have been married for 9 years and talked at length about this surgery before I started the process. Now that I am a week and a half away, he is sort of trying to talk me out of it. I don't get angry...I AM having my surgery. I know it is because he loves me so much and is afraid of living life without me. I have decided to just not mention anything about the surgery for the next week and a half. Hopefully his nerves will calm down. PLEASE pray for us...God, send us angels to protect us and peace for our hearts and minds. Thanks everyone!

At first my husband was extremely against surgery. He is not overweight at all, and has no health problems, so he can't begin to understand... However, I have kept him very educated on the surgery during my past year's journey to have it... He seems to be coming around, but I still have 4 weeks to go, so we'll see.

Hi Christen I will keep your husband and you uplifted in prayer. My DH did react negatively at first but with education, prayer and just good old fashion in your face talking it out. He has been the best support for me. I am a week post op and he has been wonderful. Your husband just might be getting jittery because it is getting so close. I pray for peace, nothing broken, nothing tattered or torn. God bless you. Michelle

CHRISTEN I WAS MARRIED FOR 13 YEARS MY HUSBAND WOULD NOT SUPPORT THE DESICION I WALKED AWAY FROM THE MARRIAGE I WASNT GOING TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE THAT WAS GOING TO BE SO NEGATIVE SO I LEFT AND I AM HAPPY I HAD MY SURGERY A YEAR AGO TODAY AND I HAVE LOST 148 LBS AND DOING GREAT TODAY SO I LEFT BECAUSE I WASNT GOING TO LIVE WITH HIM AND HIM MAKE COMMENTS ALL THE TIME SO IM FREE AND IM ENJOYING LIFE WITHOUT HIM

Christen, I bet most everyone's husband has done some freaking at the thought of their wife going for surgery. Even though very few admit it, most husbands are very dependent on their wives to keep things on an even keel. Some years ago I had to cancel some surgery because my husband said he would take the children and leave town for several weeks. I'm a lot older and smarter, now. Instead of crying, I have just stated over and over that this is what I have to do for ME, with or without his support. I also reminded him he didn't give the risks any thought when I was having our two babies - in fact, he wasn't even there. This was back in the l960's when men weren't allowed in the delivery room. After 45 years of marriage you sorta know he'll be all right when the time comes. They do survive and become stronger for it. Barb in S. Ga

Hi, Christen, I did NOT tell my husband I was having WLS surgery until a week before I had it, He knew that I was going to the dr's for different test and things and he knew I was having surgery, but just not what kind of surgery, I was a diabetic, High colesterol, high blood pressure and hypothyroidism, so he just assumed that was why I was seeing the drs. He would not have understood, He is a 2nd degree black belt in martial arts, very toned and slim, NEVER, NEVER had a weight problem!!!! What I did do was watch everything I could, he had no choice but to watch (I always watched the programs in our room) I asked him to take the day off from work so that some one would be at the hospital with me, he did, when we arrived at the hospital he asked me why I decided not to tell him I was having WLS, my response was what would you have said? He did not answer me. I should also tell you my marriage was not very good, his words were "when the kids graduate from high school I am leaving." I ask why are you waiting? I had this surgery for my health and for ME, That is why I did not tell him, I did explain WLS to my children, who are and was very supportive. Since the surgery my life has changed so much, My husband's attitude has change, which really does not matter to me, I have so much energy, I FEEL GREAT!! I went on a cruise with my best friend. This has been the greatest adventure of my life and I would not change anything I did to get here. Good luck to you and I am sure your husband will come around, he is going though a lot of feelings and he knows that changes are coming and he has no control over them, So just let him deal with that on his own, Men have strange ways of dealing with change....MOST of them do NOT like change. good luck T

My hubby didn't freak out! In our family, that's my job! I'm praying for His perfect peace for your sweet hubby and you now and as the day gets closer. I do have a friend whose hubby objected up until the day of surgery. Now he's her greatest supporter...it WAS that fear of losing his true love. Hugs, Becky