home from hospital and frustrated...

Hello all, Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and support. I had surgery (open RNY)Tuesday and dry heaved every couple of hours making the pain worse this lasted until thusday morning. I came home Thursday afternoon and have had problems resting as my parents came and wanted us to make them meals, then we had to clean up after them.Any time I tried to rest they would wake me up, they would make comments about how hard it must be to eat so little. My mom who is a size 8 kept saying I want the surgery done, you are going to get smaller than me. This went on and on until my husband asked them to leave today. They acted like they were at the Hilton having my husband and kids wait on them. I told them I needed to lay on a firm mattress they could lay on my water bed and they refused too, so my husband had to help me turn and get in and out of bed which made the pain much worse. Much more to this story as you can imagine but I want to thank you all for your support as it means more to me than you'll ever know. Its nice to know that there are people who truly care. Jan thank you so much for the monkey and for visiting! My boys love the monkey as much as I and by the way I collect monkeys. Beth,thank you for calling and checking on me and for writing, it means more than you know. Thank you all for your thoughts, and prayers, and support. You all represent what a family should be-caring, understanding, listening,supportive, nonjudgemental and so much more. I am going to rest now. I need to catch up as I haven't got much so if I'm not on the boards for a couple of days please understand! Take care. Michelle

Michelle Glad to hear your home, and sorry for the hard time you had. I am glad to hear your doing good and now can get some rest. Take good care of yourself and REST REST REST !!! Robin ~

glad everythign went ok.. sorry it was so much troble with your parents being there... go get your self some rest... we will be waiting for you!!

Michele, glad surgery is over for you...think maybe you should not answer your phone or door for a few days and get into bed..not the water bed either. Right now is recouperating time so I am sending your some comfort hugs...and heck don't feel bad about sending your parents home...they really should have been more supportive.

Michelle, I am so glad that you're home and doing well! I am sorry about the behavior of your parents. At least you have a caring husband who knew when to say enough is enough and asked them to leave. I hope you are able to get some rest now and recouperate. Take care... Love & Prayers, Erika L

Michelle, I am so glad you posted. I have been dying to know how you were doing. Sounds like you had a difficult time in the hospital, I hope the dry heaving has stopped for now. I wish I had your number, I would have come and tried to help you out with the boys at least this weekend. I am SO sorry about your parents, that is just hard to believe, but I guess some can be as demanding as some kids LOL. I hope you get the much needed rest you need and just know it does get better every day. Please let us know how you are doing. Amy

Tell anyone who is not there for SUPPORT you to get away and pound sand!!!! You dont need negative energy around you and should not tolerate any crap. Better yet tell your husband he has the cone of protection and he needs the shelter you from any crap so you can consitrate on you for a change. Good luck and god speed. Arleen

PARENTS gotta love'm but definately need them to leave. You are lucky that your husband is caring enough to stop all that. Glad you are home and I am sure you are going to do great BECAUSE you have a wonderful husband there that will watch things for you. Just relax and pay attention to yourself for a while. This is your time to pamper yourself. AND EVERYONE AROUND YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME THING FOR A WHILE. Good luck and God speed to a great and healthy body.

Glad to have you home and back again and that you are doing better...You are on your way to the losing side you lucky girl...I can't help but wish I was as far as you are...But take care of yourself and if someone upsets you...Let the hubby run them off...Then you can get the rest you need...Keep us posted on how you are doing and know you are in our prayers and thoughts...Janice

Michelle, I wish I could have visited once more on Thursday, but I'm fighting for my job right now and there are big work changes coming, so I'm running around like a fool now!! Anyway, it was such fun to meet you, but I do wish you had felt better. I had been wondering how you've been since you were having so much pain and discomfort in the hospital. Keep watching that incision of yours for S/S of infection!! You're welcome for the monkey! I'm just glad it put a smile on your face. I was afraid you'd have a "parents" story to tell, and sure enough you do! When you're feeling better maybe you should either have a heart-to-heart with them, or do like I do and just forget they exist. Parents are not perfect, they are just people and in my case my mother is very selfish and negative so I just keep her away from me. It's too bad, but it's what I feel I had to do. I've been told over and over that walking will really help things along and the people who walk the most get to feeling better faster. Just a thought. In the meantime, we will certainly understand if you're not on the board that much, but I'm so relieved to hear from you!!! Take care, Pre-Op Jan