Motivate Healthy Habits - Leaving a Family Legacy by Rick Botello, MD, BMed.Sci, BSBM, MCRGP - July 2006 Do you want to prevent disease, live longer and improve the quality of your life? Would you like to help your family members live a healthy lifestyle also? It is simple, really; all you and your family members have to do is:
It?s simple to say but difficult to do. There is no simple, quick-fix recipe for addressing your weak spot. Do not be deceived by marketing hype that sells false promises of long-lasting change. Changing unhealthy habits can be a complex challenge. If are you interested in learning about deep change, read on. Do you think you should change but don?t feel like it? If you (as most people do) underestimate your emotional resistance, you can become trapped in the prison of your own mind. To break free of ineffective action (like broken New Year?s resolutions), you must first examine the lock of your emotional resistance before you can cut a key to effective motivation. If you try to motivate yourself before you lower your emotional resistance, you will experience a tug-of-war between your head and your heart, and the feelings in your heart will win over the best intentions in your head in favor of your unhealthy habit. To help your head and heart work together effectively on change, use this three-step learning strategy. 1. Recognize what feelings drive your negative resistance. Positive versus Negative Feelings
All of these positive actions (comforting oneself, relaxing, enjoying pleasure, etc) may conceal underlying negative feelings (stress, anxiety, depressed mood, etc). So if you identify more strongly with a positive feeling, you may not be fully aware of how your avoidance of negative feelings perpetuates your unhealthy habit. But if you stop your unhealthy habit, you can experience the full impact of the underlying negative feeling. On the other hand, if you identify more with the benefits of reducing your negative feelings (overeating to comfort a negative mood, smoking a cigarette to relieve stress, or drinking alcohol to drown your sorrows), you may have additional underlying issues (e.g., anxiety disorder, undiagnosed depression or unresolved grief) that may require professional help to uncover and heal. If you have a fear of failure that makes you feel guilty, you may try to avoid both change and negative feelings. If this fear is compounded by a lack of confidence, you may undermine your attempts at ever making a change, or never even make an attempt. Feelings can distort your perceptions so that you maximize the benefits of your unhealthy habit but minimize its risks and harms to your health. This self-deception can keep you in your comfort zone and avoid the risk of change. How can you begin to address these distorted perceptions and the negative impact of these powerful feelings on your health? Explore deep change to understand what lies beneath your emotional resistance. 2. Understand what lies beneath your emotional resistance. In addition to these underlying factors, your current energy level and competing priorities in life also affect whether you can put your values into practice. For example, your work demands and family devotion drain your energy so much that you sacrifice your health. In other words, you value your health but you don?t do what you say. Weight gain or lack of regular exercise are common forms of sacrifice. Researchers or outside resources can provide you with information, support and ?know- how,? but they cannot make you change. The ultimate answer must come from within. Do as you say and put your values into action. 3. Lower your emotional resistance. Gandhi said, ?Be the change that you wish to see in the world.? Leave a family legacy of healthy habits to benefit future generations. Improve your health habits so that family members and their offspring can benefit from your learning experiences. This important ?hand-me-down? learning lesson can pass from generation to generation. This approach empowers families to address a major failing in our educational systems: the absence of a meaningful, healthy lifestyle curriculum. About the Author |