Yep... I'm a failure

 So choose something else besides a group class.  Find a treadmill, elliptical machine, go to a different neighborhood and walk around.  Just move.  It will take 20-30 consecutive days before exercise becomes a habit, but not that long before you become addicted to endorphins!  Come on girl, lets go.  If I could I would go with you, as I am all to familiar what it feels like to be the new, fat person at the gym.  When I was 460 lbs, the first 2 weeks were hell, mentally and physically.  But eventually, you will not care, all you will care about is how good you feel.

Good luck

ROY

THROW YOUR SCALE IN THE TRASH!!!!! What's healthier:

1) Hitting a stall because you are building muscle and excercising like a healthy person does

-OR-

2) Hang your head in sorrow and despair because the scale did not move in a couple days and not do anything

I think we all know the answer to that. NOW, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND GET YOUR A- - TO THE GYM FOR YOUR SPIN CLASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First, high five cuz you rock, 2nd give it your all, Third throw the scale away... It really is NOT an indicator of health or fitness.... Stay positive!

 

Taking baby steps and celebrating the "baby steps" works much better than focusing on the ultimate goal. It can be overwhelming at times. We've all had set backs. Even the major super athletes have set backs. You just have to push the set back aside and re-focus.

I would suggest keeping your work out creative and fun. Start viewing your plan as "me time" or your "refresh me" time. Try to set the weight issue or how you imagine yourself physically aside and focus on reducing your stress. Working out can boost your emotional state which in turns gets you past the "I failed" moments. Hang in there and get back in the game. You can do this and the scale will move again. You just have to get back in the game. Best wishes!!

You guys are so great and I really appreciate that you are here to support me.

I have every intention to go to the gym or classes before I go to bed and when I wake up in the morning I find every reason to talk myself out of it.

Too bad you guys arent here when I get up in the morning to kick me in the a$$ and go. I was so hard core about going the past 2 weeks and the allure of going has seemed to wear off.

I dont want to be this way the rest of my life and I need to stop having a pitty party for myself because I dont want to burden anyone.

Maybe I need a workout partner.

Having someone to workout with can help get through the rough times, but it can also be an excuse to not exercise.

This is hard, but I absolutley believe it.
My wife told me this one day when I was complaining about the food around the house and how I felt like I wasn't getting support.

The weight loss is my responsibility I will fail or succeed by my own doing.  Yes things may make it harder or easier, but ultimatley nobody puts the food in my mouth but me, and nobody makes me go the gym but me.

So with all due respect to you and knowing that is isn't easy and that there are hard times sprinkled in with the good feelings.
Get up and go to class.  Quit making excuses.  YOU CAN DO IT! 
You are only a failure if you give up or don't try.

Here is a great quote by Roosevelt that was sent to me by a friend, and when I feel like giving up or start to feel sorry for myself, I dust it off and read it again.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

That is a great quote, thank you for that. Tomorrow is another day as I wor****il 11pm tonight and will be going to bed as soon as I get home. I will make it to the gym tomorrow.

Great, go, make it a habit, get comfortable there.  Even if you just go and walk on the treadmill for 10 minutes.  The more you go, the more you will feel comfortable.
Pretty soon the effort to go becomes habit and you actually feel better when you go, and worse when you don't.  Pretty soon it is just part of your life and it's not a chore or something you have to do, it's something you just do or you enjoy doing.

Have fun tomorrow and don't let anyone ruin it for you.

Scott

I didn't get in the water for soooooooo many years because I was afraid of what people would think.

When I finally gathered up the courage to take a water aerobics class at the local YMCA, I was ASTOUNDED.

-I was in the high 300's and would you believe there were others there in that range too!?
-The water, the workout, it all felt SO good.
-Once I got focused on the workout, I stopped focusing on what I looked like.
-Everyone was so kind and supportive from the instructors to my classmates. 
-I was terrified people would judge me - in doing so, I was judging them.  Assuming the worst of them, that they would make assumptions about me because of my size.

I truly do get that this is HARD.  I would never downplay the emotional stuff that goes along with carrying excess weight and trying to lose it.  This goes soooooo far beyond the gym though.  This is about your LIFE.  Not apologizing for what you look like or what you weigh.  Not sitting out because you think you're "less than" or not worthy of the right to be there.  You will have to face these feelings in order to lose weight and keep it off - I really believe that.  Only because I've struggled with the same things :)  counseling has helped considerably. 

It's not just the gym.  It's how you see yourself.  By writing a post titled "I'm a failure..." you're affirming your deepest fears to yourself.  I'm sorry, but that language won't carry you far.  It's that kind of language that led me to downing half gallons of ice cream and eating a whole pepperoni pizza in one sitting... for years.  

You. Can. Do. This.  Believe.  And when you don't believe, fake it until you make it. 

Best,
Michelle

Are you tracking your food or just eating "right"? If you aren't tracking somehow, then probably when you started working out, you got hungrier and ate more. This is a documented phenomena and it's why a lot of studies say that exercise alone won't lead to weight loss.

If you are tracking or you know you didn't eat more, then you probably are just retaining water. Muscle repair requires water so it's normal not to see a big jump in weight loss the first week of starting a new exercise program.

Remember: working isn't really about losing weight anyway. It can help, but the real purpose of it is to get healthier and more fit. If you do cardio pre-op, it will lower the risks of surgery, and post-op it will help you sleep better, be in a better mood, lower your risk of a heart attack and certain cancers, and will lead to losing less lean tissue which helps keep your metabolism from slowing down, making maintenance easier.

So it's worth doing even if it never results in a single extra pound of weight loss.

Yes! I have been keeping a food journal, I am required to widh this program I am on. I guess I was always under the impression that it helped you lose more weight along with toning.