"Walking" the bike up a hill...

Go for the granny gear, which it sounds like you are already doing. That's the first step.
Secondly start into that gear sooner. Don't wait until you get to the point where you have to shift into it.
Third don't try to maintain the same level of exertion. That's a leg killer. Take it easy, you don't have to power up the hills.
Fourth, practice, practice, practice. The local bike shop guys and racers all say the same thing, to get good at hills, you have to climb hills.
I just went to look for the magazine but I can't find it. There are a bunch of great article on active.com I like using their site they always have articles by pros and coaches etc. You can get some good info there.
As for the sit or stand here is one opinion I found:
Sit or stand?
While you dont use different muscles to climb hills, you do use them in a slightly different position, which strains them in different ways.
Climbing in the seat allows a consistent, steady tempo on long climbs while the standing position is meant for high-intensity, short-duration attacks and jumps or accelerations. Usually, bigger riders do better sitting, while lightweight riders can stand for longer periods of time.
Seated climbing enables you to use more muscles in the leg group, including the quadriceps, hamstrings, gluteus, calf muscles and the anterior tibialis (as you "ankle" through the pedal stroke), according to Porter.
Biomechanically, standing is much less efficient, Porter said. This can only be maintained for a little while before you need to rest/recover and get back into a rhythm before you resume your pursuit.
The best option is a modification of the two where you accelerate while standing for short periods and then sit to recover and keep from blowing up.
Television doesnt do justice to the steep grades of the grand tours — the screen just cant capture the 25 percent angle or the endless road climbing to a distant ski station. Big or small, sitting or standing, steady or attacking, the riders power-to-weight ratio is there for everyone to see on the long climbs.
Remember that as you watch — your agony on the local climb is factored exactly the same way.
Scott
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