anyone want to be friends with me?

hi all im trevor im 38 and i live in the uk i would like to lose some weight but finding it very hard i enjoy eating(all the wrong types of food!! : ) but if i could i would like to slim down and get into better physical shape i tend to stay at home alot cause im socially shy my partner is overweight too, she weighs much more than i and i love her to bits i would welcome letters of encouragement etc from anyone or anywhere. i love to read,cook, i play the drums and i like travel, animals etc come on lets be friends. ps i would also appreciate help and friendship from any people suffering from prosaris or any skin complaints ive had skin problems since childhood and now at the age of 38 im suffering even more i have got a clue what causes my skin to itch all over literally from head to toes. its worse at night cause then i cant settle down cause my skin itches like crazy and sometimes im up till late before my skin settles down then i get a bit of sleep then it starts again. having this problem can knock your self esteem, such as feeling ashamed to go to the beach cause everyone can see your flaws, i cant tell you how many times ive broken down in tears say when i need to go to the shops and i look at my face in the mirror and its full of spots and i just feel so ashamed that i end up not going out even if i urgently need something. so i really need to try and improve my self confidence and my health. anyone in a similar situation? thanks for caring : ) from trevor

Hi Trevor! I'll be more than happy to be friends with you. Are you allergic to any types of food, material or detergent? That's what it sounds like. And then it can be as simple as not drinking enough water. Let me know what goes on. Take care! Gwen

hi gwen : ) thanks for your response, its much appreciated. i hope i find you well? in answer to your question, im not sure if i have an allergy but i notice that my skin bruises very easy, the slightest brush against something! i dont understand it? ive but a bruise on my arm which hasnt gone down for 2 days. today also brought bad news for me..i lost my job which i held for 5 years. needless to say i feel devastated, i still havent told my mum yet, i feel too ashamed as i held that job for a long time. what happned was i was walking down the road one saturday morning(i was employed as a traffic warden) and this woman brushed past me knocking me aside, so i stopped and thought hey didnt u see me? so under my breath i said you stupid c--- she heard what i had said and basically she reported me to my boss and today i was sacked after being suspended for the past 3 weeks. the woman said i was aggressive(which isnt true) and she suggested or said even that she was sure i would try to take revenge cause she reported me. well when my employer told me that i was saddended that she would feel like that as i did nothing to suggest that. anyway apparently this same woman phoned up my employer and said to him that i had swore at her several times using the f word and that i was very aggressive!! gewn believe me i was anything but aggressive, in fact i immediatly humbled myself and apologized for what i had said and i made it clear that i would definatly lose my job over this incident and i tryed to reason with her but she wouldnt accept it. she asked for my badge number but i was afraid to give it to her knowing i would feel the full force of my employers displinary action against me. in the end she saw my shoulder number which she wrote down and then walked away despite my plea for mercy. well needless to say i was scared and felt very very deppressed. i got through the day and when i went to work on the following monday and when i finished my shift i was told i was suspended on full pay and i was to come back on the following monday to an investigation meeting which i did attend and i gave my side of the story or incident. today was the disciplinary hearing and basically i was dismissed after being questioned and was accused of making false allegations that the woman had deliberatly pushed me. i got the impression that no matter what i said truth or lie i was already judged tried and found guilty and condemned. well when i was told i was dismissed i was and still am devastated. but according to the set guide to our conduct whilst on duty my actions on that day went against every single set conduct for a traffic warden whilst on duty. the main one was gross misconduct meaning i used inapropiate language which went against the code of conduct. so basically i did not have a leg to stand on and had to leave feeling ashamed. so now i got to start again after 5 years of hard work ruined by a slip of the tongue i wished now i had lived by the bibles's advice which says we should all abusive speech and screaming far away from us cause vengence is mine says jehovah. if i had remembered that true saying i would still have my job today. now i dont know if i am capable of never saying a bad word or lose my temper but its worth a try and if i master it i think that will be my first step to becoming wise and drawing close to god. cause i remember something in the bible that says draw close to god and he will draw close to you. so if putting the bible advice into daily use and i benifit from it then surely drawing close to god and him drawing closer to me is benificial to me too? im gonna try it gwen cause right now i think the only person that can truly help me is god. i hope my experience has inspired you, believe me it will work..and to think all these years i have doubted and even cursed god in my times of frustration and all the time he has been there for me if only i had taken the time to look or ask him for wisdom. if today leads to finding god i dont think i will ever leave him again. trevor

Hi Trevor! Do you have yahoo? We can message each other in a more private setting. I bruise eaisly also. God is always the answer in every situation. Don't dispair or look defeated. You should have never pleaded with that woman - she took that as a sign of weakness. Remember all your problems are temporary. The sun always shine even through the rain and clouds. Email me at [email protected]

Hello Trevor, I wanted to send my prayers to you in a time in which they are much needed. I read your post and wanted to send some encouraging words to you "via" internet. It seems as if the times we live in are hard and there will be days in which you feel alone and by yourself. But know that you are not alone. In researching the weight loss surgery I have come to know that this is a personal journey although many of us meet on this road. You have to be dedicated to yourself and rememebr as an addict it is always mind over matter one day at a time one situation at a time. I have come to the conclusion that I rather die trying to live than die slow and suffereing from the abuse I inflicted on myself. It took me a very long time to say that I loved myself and I wanted to live for me no one else. I have come to know if you do it for someone else the effects are always temporary. But the support is in abundance and forever when your here in the wonderful place of friends. Hang in there and know that everything happens for a reason with or without our consent. Life will serve us an entree or a snack it is up to us to know which one will satisfy us. I pray that Jehovah blesses your spirit and your home. A wounded spirit can recover if the person in charge takes responsibility for themself. Remember you are deserving in the richness of life and that special lady deserves to have you a lot longer than what you are giving her now. As well as you deserve her. I have come to know it is easier to settle for the easy way out that to fight your way through. Less effort... I wish you the best in life. Your friend, Shane

Hi Trevor--I just came upon this forum today, and I read your post and was very touched. My sister is married to a bloke from Wales (I'm from Birmingham myself, ummm, Birmingham Alabama that is), so you see--the world is getting smaller and smaller, I believe. I also believe that, one, you are being tested for a reason, perhaps this door has closed so that you will look for another one to open. You would never look for an open door unless your door has closed. I wonder what will be behind that door. View it as an opportunity. Two, the woman who accused you of such excessive misbehavior "bore false witness". Your misbehavior was minor compared to the harm she did to you. I truly believe that she will receive in equal measure the same harm that she gave to you. So, what can you accomplish now that you have all this free time on your hands? You can reach out to others, on this site, and locally, too. You can research various weight loss techniques, whether surgical or dietary, or whatever. You can start moving your body towards a healthier life--however you can achieve that. I'll check back on this forum now and then, or you can email me at cmi517 at yahoo dot com ( you know how to type that in the proper way)

HI TREVOR, YOUR STORY CERTAINLY INSPIRED ME. I BELIEVE TO THAT GOD IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER. HE HAS MANY TIMES MADE ME THINK BEFORE I SPEAK. THE WORLD HAS CHANGED SO MUCH, JUST TODAY I WAS DRIVING HOME FROM THE MALL AND I COULD SEE THE WOMAN BEHIND ME YELLING AND MAKING HAND MOTIONS TO ME. I COULDN'T GO ANY FASTER, I WAS PASSING THRU A SMALL TOURIST TOWN AND THERE WERE CARS AHEAD OF ME. I WAS THINKING, SHE'S LATE GETTING HOME / LATE PICKING THE KIDS UP / OR LATE FOR AN APPOINTMENT OR WHATEVER, AND SHE WANTS TO BLAME EVERYBODY ELSE. THE SPIRITUAL PART OF ME, SAID A LITTLE PRAYER FOR HER. THE NATURAL PART OF ME WANTED TO STOP THE CAR AND HOLD UP TRAFFIC AND GO BACK AND ASK HER WHAT HER PROBLEM WAS AND TELL HER THAT HER IMPATIENCE IS NOT EVERYBODY ELSE'S FAULT . BUT HEY, WITH ROAD RAGE THE WAY IT IS TODAY, I MAY HAVE GOTTEN SHOT LOL. DON'T KNOW IF THIS WILL HEL*****T BUT I HAVE 2 GRANDAUGHTERS THAT GET SKIN RASHES LIKE THAT, THEY ARE ALLERGIC TO SEVERAL THINGS, BUT THE MAIN THING IS ANYTHING CONTAING RED DYE, AND THAT INCLUDES SOOOOOOOO MUCH STUFF ITS UNBELIEVABLE. GOOD LUCK ON FINDING EMPLOYEMENT, I KNOW ITS HARD THESE DAYS. AND I'M SO SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU, ALL I CAN SAY IS, A LOT OF PEOPLE TODAY ARE RUDE AND INCONSIDERATE AND WE HAVE TO TRY TO TAKE THEM WITH A GRAIN OF SALT. GOD BLESS, AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU. TRUDY