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Having hard time with before surgery. Need advice.

 when are you having surgery? What is wrong?

 What surgery are you having?  

I am having the gastric surgery. Not sure when exactly. I am in the process. Start the skills group on the 25th.. then have one more meeting with the nutritionist then the see the surgeon.

I am just having a hard time dealing with how I will look after I lose a lot of weight. I know that health is more important, but I have never been skinny before, and I am afraid I will not like how I look

I understand what you mean. I have been fat all my life.  I have used my fat as an excuse in failed relationships. My concern is that I identify myself as a fat person and I am not sure how to "act" as a skinny person.  I won't know how to act when people notice my weight loss. 

Yeah. I am scared that even after I will lose a bunch of weight I still will not be worth a relationship .. I dunno.. maybe I am over reacting.

Well, I have seen your pictures. You are a very pretty young lady and I am sure you will have all the attention of men.  What you choose to do with that attention is up to you.  You need to believe you are worth a relationship otherwise it will not work.

Thanks =] I just wi**** wasn't all about looks, but I guess my personality isn't enough.. lol. I think it's good but I haven't been able to get more than the FWB thing.. it's kind of beginning to suck ! lol

As I said, it is all about how you deal with the attention men give you. If you don't want to be in a FWB relationship then you need to say no and hold out for more. And, it is about personality.  Nobody will stay with you for a lifetime just because he finds you attractive. There has to be substance and personality behind the looks. 

Yeah I know. I deff need to work on that. And I have been. I was just in a relationship like that with a roommate who I was living with. Even after we didn't live together it continued for five years. It was a very horrible ending.  Even though we were both monogamous with each other, it never went anywhere and caused a lot of fights. I knew he cared about me but not in the way I wanted him to.. That ended almost a year ago this month... It has deff put a dent in my self esteem. But I am hoping it will get better. I know I have a lot more to offer, I was just settling with him because I loved him.