Needed!!! email/text buddy had RNY in 04 and gained 50 lbs!
As the title says I NEED support and help. Someone that we can lean on each other in good and bad times. I don't care where you live I just am looking for good ol friendship and support. When we feel weak and want to pick up that candy bar instead we pick up the mouse or cell phone to text. Yes I had the RNY but I can eat almost ANYTHING! Candy bars the super size. Big mac's. I eat for many reasons and none of which are anyone's fault but my own. Lack of commitment and accountability. Now I'm asking and doing both. Will you walk with me on this life long journey?
Alicia,
Live, Laugh, and Love Life!
Live, Laugh, and Love Life!
I really need a friend. Please do e-amil me.
I had gastroplasty 1/15/1992. Lost about 190 pounds. Husband had heart surgery 1/15/1993, mother died Feb, Nephew died May, son died June21, son died August 31, lost my mind, home, and job all in 1993. Gained most of the weight back. Had ds May 2009, almost died, lost 83 pounds in six months then no more. Went on a low carb diet 7/8 and have lost 15 pounds.
6/20/2010 was my 35th wedding anniversary and the day before the anniversary of my oldest son’s death, my middle son died 8/31. On my anniversary my husband told me he is divorcing me. I don’t believe divorce is God’s will. My husband has been talking to at least 3 women—one he spoke with over 200 times in 21 days. He took one of them riding in the park. He is a minister and says he has done nothing wrong. I just want to serve God and be in His will. I am very confused and hurt. I know God can do anything but man has free will. Satan has my husband blinded. He says that he is in God’s will and God will forgive whatever he does. I think it is different when you sin knowing that you are sinning and choose to sin. I need a miracle from God. Our daughters actually think that he is trying to get me to commit suicide so he will get everything. This is tearing my family apart. He says he loves me but wants a divorce ASAP. He expects me to sign a non-contested divorce Tuesday. Please pray for my family, husband, my marriage, and me as the Lord leads you. I appreciate any and all prayers.
I had gastroplasty 1/15/1992. Lost about 190 pounds. Husband had heart surgery 1/15/1993, mother died Feb, Nephew died May, son died June21, son died August 31, lost my mind, home, and job all in 1993. Gained most of the weight back. Had ds May 2009, almost died, lost 83 pounds in six months then no more. Went on a low carb diet 7/8 and have lost 15 pounds.
6/20/2010 was my 35th wedding anniversary and the day before the anniversary of my oldest son’s death, my middle son died 8/31. On my anniversary my husband told me he is divorcing me. I don’t believe divorce is God’s will. My husband has been talking to at least 3 women—one he spoke with over 200 times in 21 days. He took one of them riding in the park. He is a minister and says he has done nothing wrong. I just want to serve God and be in His will. I am very confused and hurt. I know God can do anything but man has free will. Satan has my husband blinded. He says that he is in God’s will and God will forgive whatever he does. I think it is different when you sin knowing that you are sinning and choose to sin. I need a miracle from God. Our daughters actually think that he is trying to get me to commit suicide so he will get everything. This is tearing my family apart. He says he loves me but wants a divorce ASAP. He expects me to sign a non-contested divorce Tuesday. Please pray for my family, husband, my marriage, and me as the Lord leads you. I appreciate any and all prayers.
Butterfly,
I'm sorry for what is going on w/you. Tragedy has followed you. I know what it's like to go through divorce. It's hard and no fun however you will recover. It does sound like Satan has his hold on your husband thou as you said God gives up free will and your husband sounds like he is using his position w/God in a careless way. You can't change your husband only God and so you need to think of yourself. You can't do anything unless you are strong and care for yourself first! I will pray thou my relationship w/God has been on the way side as well. He is still with me thou.
My story goes:
I met my ex when we were in high school; married after graduation; moved around w/military till we got to FL and he did not re-enlist after 11 yrs. He get into real estate but was not very successful w/it so we moved to TN. He began working at a local food store and met a few women he liked. Asked me for a divorce. (mind you I'm not innocent in this I've had affairs during the marriage he found out about and agreed to work though them) I put up a fight and he moved out instead. He dated a few times then found out the one woman he was "in love with" was jacking him around and playing w/his feelings. He asked to come back but that only lasted for a few months. It just didn't work out so he asked to continue w/the divorce plans the day after we celebrated our 20th annv. and a few weeks after my fathers death. I agreed. We had a uncontested divorce everything split down the middle w/the girls staying w/me. We remain friends to this day even after 20 yrs of marriage. Things can and will work out even if it's not what you think it should be. Allow God to work w/you. Let Him be in control.
I look forward to e-mails.
Blessings,
Alicia
I'm sorry for what is going on w/you. Tragedy has followed you. I know what it's like to go through divorce. It's hard and no fun however you will recover. It does sound like Satan has his hold on your husband thou as you said God gives up free will and your husband sounds like he is using his position w/God in a careless way. You can't change your husband only God and so you need to think of yourself. You can't do anything unless you are strong and care for yourself first! I will pray thou my relationship w/God has been on the way side as well. He is still with me thou.
My story goes:
I met my ex when we were in high school; married after graduation; moved around w/military till we got to FL and he did not re-enlist after 11 yrs. He get into real estate but was not very successful w/it so we moved to TN. He began working at a local food store and met a few women he liked. Asked me for a divorce. (mind you I'm not innocent in this I've had affairs during the marriage he found out about and agreed to work though them) I put up a fight and he moved out instead. He dated a few times then found out the one woman he was "in love with" was jacking him around and playing w/his feelings. He asked to come back but that only lasted for a few months. It just didn't work out so he asked to continue w/the divorce plans the day after we celebrated our 20th annv. and a few weeks after my fathers death. I agreed. We had a uncontested divorce everything split down the middle w/the girls staying w/me. We remain friends to this day even after 20 yrs of marriage. Things can and will work out even if it's not what you think it should be. Allow God to work w/you. Let Him be in control.
I look forward to e-mails.
Blessings,
Alicia
Alicia,
Live, Laugh, and Love Life!
Live, Laugh, and Love Life!
Hi,
I had my RNY in June 04 and have gained back 25 lbs that I have not been able to shed. I'm 58 yrs old, female. I originally lost 100 lbs never made my goal weight and have regained 25 lbs.
It's very frustrating but am not going to give up. I've let go of a few good habits such as the 30-30-30 rule of drinking with eating, and the 64 0zs of water per day. I'm going to reintroduce this plan of action and see what happens.
Hope to hear from you.
Carol
Wow, you sound like me. I had my RNY 12/17/03 and lost 128 lbs. Never made my goal weight. Gained 43 back when I quit smoking. Lost 23 of that following Weigh****chers and now nothing else will move. I want to lose 40-45 more lbs. I eat just about anything. I can even eat a whole sandwich & some grapes at one meal. I do drink while I eat. So you see I have picked up some bad habits again. I've been all over OH posting and asking for suggestions/help or support and can't get anyone to respond. I don'n even think I remember what I ate that first year when I became part of the Century club (loss of 100+ lbs).
Let me know what you find out regarding reintroducing the plan and how you are getting it started? Very interested in what you do to get things moving again>
Keep well and focused,
^Lori^
Let me know what you find out regarding reintroducing the plan and how you are getting it started? Very interested in what you do to get things moving again>
Keep well and focused,
^Lori^
I am 36 years old. I had RNY on 6/23/03. I went from 312 pounds to 170 in the first year. I was able to maintain my weight for about 5 years. Within the last 2 years I have gained 45 pounds. I know it's my own fault, for going back to my old ways. I am so disappointed and disguested with myself. I have tried numerous times to get back on track but I always seem to go back to my bad habits. My insurance did not pay for my WLS. I paid cash for it. I am so upset with myself for spending $20,000 and then gaining so much weight back. I could blame it on my divorce, medical problems and depression but the truth is, I know it's because I got lazy and stopped following the rules. At this point I wonder if I will ever be able to get back to where I want to be. I have read about some people having a revision. I wonder if that is an option. I really need some support and friendship from people who understand what I am going through, I feel like a complete failure.
Wow, I am sitting here with my mouth gaping open in total shock of everything that has happened to you. I am a Christian woman/wife/mother and I have had a lot of hard times in my life also. I just want you to know that I am here for you for whatever you need as a friend and fellow WLS buddy. I hardly ever post here anymore but I posted this today in hopes that it would help someone. I hope it can help those *****ad it and I'll repost it here for you.
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
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