Pen Pal Needed for support and for rocking post op hilarity!
So, I will totally try to keep it real. Here are my general stats:
Job- Linguist
Location- Boston Metro
Surgery- RnY
Surgery Date- 9/9/09
Additionally, I am kind of goofy, gay as hell, and love to have a good time and laugh.
I would like really to share this experience with someone. I think it would be more than awesome to have someone to share this with kind of like we are soldiers or something.
Give me a yell and go check my profile to decide if you want to be penpals. If you need more to see what kind of person I am well, you can go check a couple of my blogs.
the****tynorth.wordpress.com -stories of living in the North (take it with a grain of salt and a sense of humor)
gaytscreamingq.blogspot.com - gay stuff.
I really look forward to hearing from people soon :)
Job- Linguist
Location- Boston Metro
Surgery- RnY
Surgery Date- 9/9/09
Additionally, I am kind of goofy, gay as hell, and love to have a good time and laugh.
I would like really to share this experience with someone. I think it would be more than awesome to have someone to share this with kind of like we are soldiers or something.
Give me a yell and go check my profile to decide if you want to be penpals. If you need more to see what kind of person I am well, you can go check a couple of my blogs.
the****tynorth.wordpress.com -stories of living in the North (take it with a grain of salt and a sense of humor)
gaytscreamingq.blogspot.com - gay stuff.
I really look forward to hearing from people soon :)
Hey,
Good luck on your upcomming surgery. I had the RnY on 6/15/09 and I'm doing great. I had a lot of anxiety just prior to my surgery, but it all went fine with no ill effects. The most difficult part of the whole process was the hospital stay; I was so bored. But thankfully, I had a really decent roommate who helped the time pass with some good conversation and humor. To date, I've lost a total of 81 pounds (28 of that was before surgery).
Still trying to adjust my life style and change my ways. I've done pretty good, but there have been a few times where I had to learn the hard way.
My email address is [email protected] if that's an easier way to make contact?
Wishing you the best,
Trudy
Hey Trudy,
(BTW, I love your name, it totally rocks)
What have you had to learn the hard way? I am very curious about some things. what was it like to eat the first time after surgery? Are poops smaller? (That might be weird, but I am curious). What have to done to fufill your life. I used to eat, but now I am just kind of sitting around. Do you have a support group that you go to? Does it help.
Thanks for your time, I hope to hear from you soon.
Justin
(BTW, I love your name, it totally rocks)
What have you had to learn the hard way? I am very curious about some things. what was it like to eat the first time after surgery? Are poops smaller? (That might be weird, but I am curious). What have to done to fufill your life. I used to eat, but now I am just kind of sitting around. Do you have a support group that you go to? Does it help.
Thanks for your time, I hope to hear from you soon.
Justin
Hey Justin,
I've always been a fast eater, and it was been one of several challenges for me. There have been about 3 times now where I've eaten too fast or not chewed my food enough and I've gotten sick. The feeling is terrible, my mouth constantly fills with this thick saliva that I have to keep spitting out. One one occassion I suffered for about 2 hours until I finally threw up. The last time I did it, I realized that I didn't want to go through a long period of suffering so I made myself vomit. I'm starting to learn my lesson, making my meals last longer to avoid the discomfort. As long as I do that, it's fine.
My first meal after surgery (2 weeks after as my physician has all her patients follow the liquid diet for 2 weeks after surgery) was half a piece of string cheese. I ate it very slowly but got full fast. Had I tried to eat the whole thing, I think I would have gotten sick. I've had reallly good luck with cheese products, cottage cheese, sliced cheese, the first week or so thats all I ate; well that and yogurt. At first, it was really hard to get in enough fluids, but it has gotten better.
Ahhh, yeah, poops are smaller and more infrequent; like every 2 or 3 days some times. I think every 4 or so the first few weeks after surgery.
I've recently really developed a good friendship with a guy I work with, so we have been going out a lot to movies, playing mini golf, day trips to the coast. There is still a lot of down time which gives me plenty of time to think about food (i just loved food, ate it when I was happy, sad or bored). I'm trying to fill some of that time with exercise....but have never been big on that either. But I know I have to make it a bigger part of my life. Last week I rode a bike for the first time in like 10 years and I amazed myself; I didn't have to get off and walk up any of the hills.
There is a support group at the hospital where I had my surgery that is run by the dieticians. I haven't been yet, but I plan to. I think they have 2 a month. I kinda wanted to wait until I had a good weight loss first; didn't want to show up still roughly the same size and have people think I was doing bad or poorly. Just my weird way of thinking I guess. But I think I'm going to try to attend one next month and see how it goes.
I'll tell ya, it's way cool to go to clothing stores and try on things that are 3 sizes smaller!!!
So how are you feeling as your surgery date get's closer? Any concerns? Are you having the laproscopic procedure or open? I had lapo and it was pretty easy to recover from. I know everyone is different, but I didn't have any complications and feel really good.
I've always been a fast eater, and it was been one of several challenges for me. There have been about 3 times now where I've eaten too fast or not chewed my food enough and I've gotten sick. The feeling is terrible, my mouth constantly fills with this thick saliva that I have to keep spitting out. One one occassion I suffered for about 2 hours until I finally threw up. The last time I did it, I realized that I didn't want to go through a long period of suffering so I made myself vomit. I'm starting to learn my lesson, making my meals last longer to avoid the discomfort. As long as I do that, it's fine.
My first meal after surgery (2 weeks after as my physician has all her patients follow the liquid diet for 2 weeks after surgery) was half a piece of string cheese. I ate it very slowly but got full fast. Had I tried to eat the whole thing, I think I would have gotten sick. I've had reallly good luck with cheese products, cottage cheese, sliced cheese, the first week or so thats all I ate; well that and yogurt. At first, it was really hard to get in enough fluids, but it has gotten better.
Ahhh, yeah, poops are smaller and more infrequent; like every 2 or 3 days some times. I think every 4 or so the first few weeks after surgery.
I've recently really developed a good friendship with a guy I work with, so we have been going out a lot to movies, playing mini golf, day trips to the coast. There is still a lot of down time which gives me plenty of time to think about food (i just loved food, ate it when I was happy, sad or bored). I'm trying to fill some of that time with exercise....but have never been big on that either. But I know I have to make it a bigger part of my life. Last week I rode a bike for the first time in like 10 years and I amazed myself; I didn't have to get off and walk up any of the hills.
There is a support group at the hospital where I had my surgery that is run by the dieticians. I haven't been yet, but I plan to. I think they have 2 a month. I kinda wanted to wait until I had a good weight loss first; didn't want to show up still roughly the same size and have people think I was doing bad or poorly. Just my weird way of thinking I guess. But I think I'm going to try to attend one next month and see how it goes.
I'll tell ya, it's way cool to go to clothing stores and try on things that are 3 sizes smaller!!!
So how are you feeling as your surgery date get's closer? Any concerns? Are you having the laproscopic procedure or open? I had lapo and it was pretty easy to recover from. I know everyone is different, but I didn't have any complications and feel really good.
as gross as it may be I am totally excited about smaller and less frequent poops. OMG!
Well, i am anxious to get my surgery over with and I am looking forward to the time off from work. I am afraid that it is going to be too diffiicult, but I am not afraid either, sort of a weird dichotomy. I just want to be sure to give myself enough time to learn about it and focus on myself in the post op. My surgery will be an open one, the doctor only does open and he claims it is much safter, I just hope he doesn't leave something inside of me, like a sponge, or an instrument. If I could have a complications free surgery that would be great.
Right now, though, I am having some issues. I am trying to get my blood sugar down to a range that is okay for me to have surgery. Last monday is was like 419 and I have been able to get it down, today it was 163. However, I have to keep it that low at least until I have the surgery so they will put me under anesthesia. but, my doctor didn't update my prescription fro the insulin correctly and now the pharmacy is fighting with the insurance to pay for the insulin, which i will be out of today. It is so diffficult right now, really, because if I don't have the insulin, I can't keep the BS down, and then I can't have surgery, which will probably allow me to come off of the insulin directly after the surgery. So, we will see how that works out.
but I am excited, and excited/ nervous about what the new perception of me will be. i am actually afraid I will lose some of my friends, and that I will have to move out of the house from my roommate. He has been a friend fro about 10 years, but the problem is that he is like me not a very healthy eather, but he doesn't have diabetes, and has no interestin gastric bypass, so he eats all the 'good' stuff, in front of me, and he has recently taken up baking- strange he has done this 2 weeks before my surgery. I have asked him for his support, but he keeps telling me how he is going to keep eating how he wants, and that if I get an attitude as a thin person he will have to bring me down a peg or two- and this is all hypothetical. I think that because I am finally doing something for myself that is kind of selfish, people- family and friend included- are getting the point that I am going to start taking care of me first and worring about my problems and my feelings/ issues, goals etc. before I worry about them or take care of them. I need this change, but I am afraid I will be thin and alone, and I don't really know how to make new friends... have you had any experience like that? Any advice?
Thanks for your time I really do appreciate it. BTW, where are you from and where do you live now, I know you mentioned a coast, but I was curious which one and which place, etc.
Yours,
Justin
Well, i am anxious to get my surgery over with and I am looking forward to the time off from work. I am afraid that it is going to be too diffiicult, but I am not afraid either, sort of a weird dichotomy. I just want to be sure to give myself enough time to learn about it and focus on myself in the post op. My surgery will be an open one, the doctor only does open and he claims it is much safter, I just hope he doesn't leave something inside of me, like a sponge, or an instrument. If I could have a complications free surgery that would be great.
Right now, though, I am having some issues. I am trying to get my blood sugar down to a range that is okay for me to have surgery. Last monday is was like 419 and I have been able to get it down, today it was 163. However, I have to keep it that low at least until I have the surgery so they will put me under anesthesia. but, my doctor didn't update my prescription fro the insulin correctly and now the pharmacy is fighting with the insurance to pay for the insulin, which i will be out of today. It is so diffficult right now, really, because if I don't have the insulin, I can't keep the BS down, and then I can't have surgery, which will probably allow me to come off of the insulin directly after the surgery. So, we will see how that works out.
but I am excited, and excited/ nervous about what the new perception of me will be. i am actually afraid I will lose some of my friends, and that I will have to move out of the house from my roommate. He has been a friend fro about 10 years, but the problem is that he is like me not a very healthy eather, but he doesn't have diabetes, and has no interestin gastric bypass, so he eats all the 'good' stuff, in front of me, and he has recently taken up baking- strange he has done this 2 weeks before my surgery. I have asked him for his support, but he keeps telling me how he is going to keep eating how he wants, and that if I get an attitude as a thin person he will have to bring me down a peg or two- and this is all hypothetical. I think that because I am finally doing something for myself that is kind of selfish, people- family and friend included- are getting the point that I am going to start taking care of me first and worring about my problems and my feelings/ issues, goals etc. before I worry about them or take care of them. I need this change, but I am afraid I will be thin and alone, and I don't really know how to make new friends... have you had any experience like that? Any advice?
Thanks for your time I really do appreciate it. BTW, where are you from and where do you live now, I know you mentioned a coast, but I was curious which one and which place, etc.
Yours,
Justin
Hey Justin,
I've been farily lucky, my co-workers, friends and family have been pretty supportive. A friend at work told me that I've inspired her to get healthier. Not to say that there havent been a few comments from people. It was a huge, life altering step for me and at times I felt like it was selfish too. But hey, aren't we allowed to do somthing just for ourselves every so often? I wouldn't change a thing.
Sounds like your roommate is trying to sabbotage you, probably out of fear of loosing your friendship. I told all my friends that if I start acting weird or not like myself after I loose weight, to slap me back into reality. It has been a fear of mine that I will be different, but really is that such a bad thing?...people grow and change all the time based on life experiences.
I'm not real good at making new friends either, but I'm going to try. It has helped that this guy at work and I have become really good friends. He's really social and get's me out and doing things. He's introduced me to some of his other friends and it's worked out pretty good. It still doesn't change the fact that I'm sort of introverted, but I'm working on it. I'm hoping that when I start going to the support group, I'll meet some new people and develop some relationships. Have you found a local support group that you could start attending?
I live in Orono Maine, about 50 miles from the coast. It's a small college town, pretty quiet during the summer months, but getting busier now that the students are back.
Trudy
I've been farily lucky, my co-workers, friends and family have been pretty supportive. A friend at work told me that I've inspired her to get healthier. Not to say that there havent been a few comments from people. It was a huge, life altering step for me and at times I felt like it was selfish too. But hey, aren't we allowed to do somthing just for ourselves every so often? I wouldn't change a thing.
Sounds like your roommate is trying to sabbotage you, probably out of fear of loosing your friendship. I told all my friends that if I start acting weird or not like myself after I loose weight, to slap me back into reality. It has been a fear of mine that I will be different, but really is that such a bad thing?...people grow and change all the time based on life experiences.
I'm not real good at making new friends either, but I'm going to try. It has helped that this guy at work and I have become really good friends. He's really social and get's me out and doing things. He's introduced me to some of his other friends and it's worked out pretty good. It still doesn't change the fact that I'm sort of introverted, but I'm working on it. I'm hoping that when I start going to the support group, I'll meet some new people and develop some relationships. Have you found a local support group that you could start attending?
I live in Orono Maine, about 50 miles from the coast. It's a small college town, pretty quiet during the summer months, but getting busier now that the students are back.
Trudy
Hi Again Trudy,
what you are saying is kind of resonating with me. I feel very similar to what you do. Alas, I actually just live out side of Boston. You know, I alwasy mean to go up to maine, but I just haven't managed yet, maybe when I get this surgery done I will have more time to do stuff like that.
I do have a group that I could attend, the only problem I have is that it is on tuesday nigths, and I work late a lot. ( I am still at work now waiting on something). I am looking for one that might take place on the weekend. I am also trying to do this online thing too, mainly because I think it could be helpful.
I guess I will have to go and look for things to do. exercising in something I can only do a little bit of, but I will have to do more I guess, maybe I could become a hip hop dance enthusiast or something.
:)
Justin
what you are saying is kind of resonating with me. I feel very similar to what you do. Alas, I actually just live out side of Boston. You know, I alwasy mean to go up to maine, but I just haven't managed yet, maybe when I get this surgery done I will have more time to do stuff like that.
I do have a group that I could attend, the only problem I have is that it is on tuesday nigths, and I work late a lot. ( I am still at work now waiting on something). I am looking for one that might take place on the weekend. I am also trying to do this online thing too, mainly because I think it could be helpful.
I guess I will have to go and look for things to do. exercising in something I can only do a little bit of, but I will have to do more I guess, maybe I could become a hip hop dance enthusiast or something.
:)
Justin
Hey Justin,
LOL...I'm contemplating taking up pole dancing!! Then again, may not be the best choice in a small town :)
Yeah it's definatly hard to fit anything in around a busy schedule. I work 2 jobs and I just graduated from college....it was a long 4 years. But I am finding that I have more time on my hands. Im off to New Hampshire for a long weekend of camping and fun with some friends and family, the highlight of my summer. Well, actually I think my surgery was the summer highlight, but now that thats over, I find I need somthing else to look forward too.
My dietician recommended some work out tapes for me. Leslie Sansone (may be spelled wrong) it's Walk Away the Pounds. She has put out several in 1 mile increments that you do right in front of the t.v. They're easy, low impact and pretty effective. The 1 mile one only takes 20 minutes, which is good because any longer then that and I quickly loose interest. May be worth checking out.
When I finally attend a support group meeting, I'll fill you in on how it went for me.
I was lucky in that I didn't have diabetes before surgery, but I know it was just a matter of time before I did (long family history of it). I can't imagine how tough that must be for you. Keep resisting the cookies or whatever else the roommate is cooking. For me, having other over weight people around me made me feel more secure; I knew that I wasn't the only one or I wasn't the biggest/heaviest one...thats probably what he's feeling.
Talk to you soon,
Trudy
LOL...I'm contemplating taking up pole dancing!! Then again, may not be the best choice in a small town :)
Yeah it's definatly hard to fit anything in around a busy schedule. I work 2 jobs and I just graduated from college....it was a long 4 years. But I am finding that I have more time on my hands. Im off to New Hampshire for a long weekend of camping and fun with some friends and family, the highlight of my summer. Well, actually I think my surgery was the summer highlight, but now that thats over, I find I need somthing else to look forward too.
My dietician recommended some work out tapes for me. Leslie Sansone (may be spelled wrong) it's Walk Away the Pounds. She has put out several in 1 mile increments that you do right in front of the t.v. They're easy, low impact and pretty effective. The 1 mile one only takes 20 minutes, which is good because any longer then that and I quickly loose interest. May be worth checking out.
When I finally attend a support group meeting, I'll fill you in on how it went for me.
I was lucky in that I didn't have diabetes before surgery, but I know it was just a matter of time before I did (long family history of it). I can't imagine how tough that must be for you. Keep resisting the cookies or whatever else the roommate is cooking. For me, having other over weight people around me made me feel more secure; I knew that I wasn't the only one or I wasn't the biggest/heaviest one...thats probably what he's feeling.
Talk to you soon,
Trudy
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