My husband has never said anything negative but I know he will never really know how hard it is to live with FMS.  And, I pray he never does have to live with anything like this or any other disease.  I loved working and was climbing up the ladder when I just couldn't do it anymore so I didn't go back to work when we moved to our present location.  I always gave 100% plus in all aspects of my life and it doesn't feel good to know my life will never be like that again.  Healthy people don't get it.  People look at me and think I look healthy but they don't know what it takes for me to get up and out of the house to join them when I can.  We are leaving soon for a 3 wk camping trip.  We have a rustic cabin without plumbing.  We have to use an outhouse and a shower set up outside.  When I was younger it was an adventure.  I only go because it is important to my spouse but I'd really like to stay home in my comfortable bed and indoor plumbing.  It is a beautiful place during the day high in the mountains surrounded by pine trees and a river running in front of the cabin.

Fortunately I don't have a hubby like that but I know how you feel about already feeling guilty. I feel bad cause I know my hubby always wanted to travel when he retired but now that I have so much trouble getting around it's pretty much out of the question. I have no problem if he wants to travel without me but like he says it's no fun by himself. Your hubby may never fully understand but maybe you can get him to read about it or go to a doctor visit with you and have the doc explain what is going on. It's so difficult to have an "invisible" disease, people will always give you "the look" when you use a handicap parking space or say you are looking for sympathy. When he gets this way you are always welcome to vent here, that's why we have this forum. The best we can do is like you said try to stay positive and just keep on keeping on, one day at a time. Until then here's group hug from your peeps here!

i agree with prior post by hislady. you might get better understanding from a pain center.  if not - i'd look at changing doctors.  one med daily is fine if that's what works for you.  but if you've told your md it's not working and they won't change it up, i'd move on.
my fibro meds are cymbalta, buspirone, neurontin, ... i've got pain patches, a tens unit, acetaminophen, and ice packs for breakthrough pain.  so i go through all my options until something works
good luck with your search for a solution, loretta.  hang in there.

I have an appt next week to see my doctor i want to change meds. all the stuff i take causes some weight gain but not sure what i should take. My doctors real bad about letting me have pain meds he only allowes me one a day and i need more or something else. Loretta

This is kind of which came first the chicken or the egg? I've read of alot of folks that developed fibro after surgeries for lots of different things. I think it is because fibro can develope after any kind of trauma to the body, it tends to throw off the normal function and intensifies the pain messages. There is also some recent research about a connection with fibro and other autoimmune disorders. Fibro is such an odd disease with so many different symptoms that it's really difficult to say what brings it on.I think I have had mine since I was a teen and only had my surgery 4 yrs ago. I do know the older I get the worse it seems to get. It may also be a combination of things. so I don't know that you'll ever be able to know what caused it. I tried Lyrica for a short while and it did cause weight gain so I was switched to Cymbalta and that doesn't seem to cause the gain for me at least. So you might try one of the other drugs for fibro and also seek out a good pain specialist. I wish you the best and feel free to come here and vent if you need to!