WLS and marraige or not?

I posted this on the main board and thought I'd try here too: Just copied this from a post about a nonsupportive spouse and was wondering what people's experiences are with their spouses.? I have been seriously contemplating divorce the past 3-4 weeks and feel like a total failure. This would be my second failed marraige. It is a scary thing to think of living alone the rest of my life, but then again it feels like it would be a relief. I am just looking for a little insight. Thanks in advance. "When I went to the seminar given by my surgeon he gave a warning, he said if you are happily married now this will only make your relationship stronger, if you are not happily married it will probably destroy it. I have seen it happen to so many women."

Hello......A Lil you are not alone My hub will do anything and everything to sabatoge my weight-loss. I just truly believe that in his pathetic mind that he thinks I will not leave him at this weight............. Oh How he is Truly Mistaken! I have decided to get a divorce, the amount of stress that he gives can not help me in anyway with my trying to get ME healthy: physically/mentally and spiritually. I would love to chat w/ someone in my shoes, bad marriages,weightlosing,and life can sometimes get very lonely. If you would like an email address so we could offer each other support I'd be glad to xchange info: ) Goodluck in all your life choices, Tallulah

Hey you can add me to the spouse not being supportive group if you wish. My X refused to allow me to have the surgery even though strongly encouraged by the doctor years ago. I'm having it now that I left the creep anyway. The problem is that I am having to deal with three YOUNG children at the same time and it's difficult. But I do know the feeling and am here to chat at if you need me! Hugs! Rachel

Hi Girls My husband can be added to the rank of *#*$# jerk also. He was mildly supportive of me having surgery just because he didn't like me fat. Now 5 weeks post op and 27 lbs down he is just as miserable. Now he seems annoyed that I don't sit around eating hot wings and drinking beer with him. He is totally on my last nerve. I will definely be back to this forum to talk to you guys! Thanks for letting me vent...more to come I am sure! Jen

I was in an on again off again relationship (we were engaged) for four years. He was so against this surgery, and I was soooo going to have it anyway, that it played a big role in our final demise. He's been trying to call me again recently, and I'm having none of it. I'm focusing on me now...doing the things I've always wanted to do. He had his chance to support me in my decision, and instead, he chose to whine about how he was worried about losing me (either to the surgery, or to my inevitable weight loss and another guy). His chance is over, and now it's my time!

I am married but it has been hell for me, my husband is such a hater! I have been really going through it with him. He is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. insecure, and I HATE IT!! I am so sick and tired of his crap. So with that said, I guess you should make sure that your marriage is good and your husband must be secure with you and himself. Good luck! Lady