Alone

Hello All, My surgery is a week away, I am alone and with noone to help me through this very difficult time. I need to know if there is anyone else out there going through this alone. Where do I find the strength to do this alone. My parents are dead, my family unsupportive and I am very lonely. Please HELP! Shirley

Hey Shirley, I am not alone in the WLS process, but I want you to know that I will be praying for you. Kandy

Hello Shirley, I am sorry that you are alone during this change in your life. I live alone but I was fortunate to have friends and my Dad to be there for support. I had my surgery on January 7th, 2004. I didn't do it for anyone but myself. I wanted quality of life. I am in my 50's and I have no regrets at all on having this done. My life has changed so much for the better. You are not alone in this endeavor. There are thousands of people just like us who had no other choice but to go this route. I will be there for you with any help or answer any questions that you may have. I have helped quite a few people who have went through this. I live in Jonesville, MI. which is close to the Ohio border. I wish I was closer so I could be there for you. I have faith that you will make it through. I am in charge of a support group here and I have helped many people. Many people are not supportive because they don't know how to be and maybe they are afraid of this surgery. Yes, it is risky but I chose to live than to slowly die from being so overweight. My health has impoved dramatically and so far I have lost 100 pounds in 6 months. I have over 150 to go but I feel so much better as will you. If you want to keep in touch here is my e-mail addy: [email protected] Take care Shirley and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

I feel alone. I am an only child and NO friends havent had a friend since I was 16 im now 36. I only have my husband and 2 kids. My parents dont care one way or the other if I have wls and I have no other family I do but I dont know any of them. My 19 yr old daughter is going to Mexico with me and my husband but my 17 yr old refuses to go this makes me feel bad like he dont care if I come back or not.

I'm 42 years old, I have no friends either. And when I did they were fair weather friends. When I needed something they were no where to be found. My Dad and Mom live over 1000 miles from me, My mother has Alzheimer's so my Dad has his hands full. I have my wife and my 5 year old, but it's not the same as having someone to confide in or talk/complain to, but form what I have seen in the short while I've been here is there is a ton of support here. I have not told a single person other than my wife and have no intentions of telling any of my family. Keep your head up and be proud of yourself. Doing things on you own is tough. You do what's right for you.