getting the cold shoulder

i really need some help...

my sister has not spoken to me since my surgery almost 4 weeks ago.  she says she just can't deal with it.  she is getting married in september and told me several times pre-op that she believes i only planned the surgery to upstage her at her wedding and get attention.  (we are both overweight, but i was always slightly bigger than her)  i assured her that this was not the case, but she doesn't believe me.  i thought it just might be that she was worried about my health and would relax once i was recovered, but it has only gotten worse...much worse...

my parents have tried talking to her and she just won't listen.  they are getting as frustrated as i am and we just don't know what to do anymore.  i fear it really is going to ruin her wedding if we can't work it out.  

has anyone else had issues like these with close family members?  what should i do?

 That sucks.  I think all you can do is tell her that you love her and are doing this to get your life back. If it were me, I would graciously offer to just bow out of the wedding so the bride can have" her day."  While it's very self centered of her, this is a day that lots of girls dream about for years and years.  If there is any day where a gal should be allowed a little narcissim, its the day they fulfill their princess fantasy and get hitched.  

I'm sorry your going throue this I'm going throue the same thing with my sister and sister in-law.

My sister has been distant with me since I had my WLS were not as close as we were before, after trying to have surgery for 3 years when she heard I was approved and I had my date she went on a diet and lost about 60 pounds not in a good way but she had to loose the weight cause she wanted to be the skinny one I had been big for 15 years and I think she liked being the smaller one she even went as far as to tell me not to have WLS at first I thaught it was cause she was afraid i would die but then I realised it was cause she didn't want to be the fat one. It rily sucks that something that has been so great to me has come between my sister and me.

My sister in-law started to treat me differtant also and well we don't even talk anymore it's been 2 months since we talked she got married last month and brought the invitation 2 days before the wedding  we live in a small town and my husband is her only family here and she brings the invitation 2 days before and the whole town recived theirs 3 weeks before what the hell so my husband decided we would not go she didn't want me their because she tried  to give my husband the invitation at his work and he told her to take it to the house.

so I know what your going thrue and I rily don't have any advice cause I'm dealing with the same thing and it sucks,