How to help my wife

My wife is scheduled for surgery on Jan 26, 2010.  She is currently going through "what if" scenarios and I don't know how to comfort her.  She is asking what if I fail? what do I tell people? What if it is too hard?  I've told her that I will support her and help her on the journey to the new her, but she kinda dismisses me.  Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks!

I'm sorry, baby.  I don't mean to be dismissive to you.  I just am scared about failing and about how hard this is going to be.  What if I can't do it?  What am I going to do when I'm upset and don't have food to turn to?  Has anyone else been here?

My surgery anniversary is Jan 26 It's gonna be a year.
I was also in her shoes a year ago and one thing that helped me was me and my husband had a lot of long talks about what our journey was going to be like cause this journey involves the whole family not only the person having WLS
 All I can say is be their for her  and listen to her and reassure her.
It's not an easy journey it's just easier if we have the support we need.

I was going through some of that too... I finally gave it to God... I cant stress about it... I told him its in his hands and I will do whatever he pleases. It seems to help alot.

I have told only people I fet comfortable with... overwise i just said I was having abdominable sugery and most didnt ask more.