Venting.....

I am sooo nervous!! My surgery day is Christmas Eve!!But I have the support of my family.  I don't know why but I really don't want alot of people knowing about my surgery.  My immediate family is fine but I am a very personal person and I just don't like people in my business.  I have already heard negative things from others and I just want to keep it between people that I know are going to be positive and keep me motivated...

Hi Lady,

Just wanna say........... we are neighbors, so to speak.........Im in SC.  Look,  my sis had the surgery 2 days ago. I have grown up with this woman. Not only is she my sister, family, but my best friend.  20 years ago, who would of known that we would be as tight as we are. Anyways, you tell who YOU are comfy with, thats it period. We have been thru this whole issue too, who to tell, who not to tell, and what do you say when Christmas comes and peeps wonder why you (my sis) are not eating?  She only told who she wanted to know. Everyone doesnt have to know your business. Do this for you and as far as answering to "other " people, be evasive. Why do people have to be so nosey? Im personal like you, and I too as well as my sis needs positive people around us. Im gonna say you" Rock Sister"!!!!!!  Keep your head up and be loving yourself for a Christmas present like no other.  I you want to talk, just to vent, Im here okay?

Big Hugz!!
Sunni

Good Luck and Prayers today on your surgery!!!!

Hi there,  Just wanted to say I hope your surgery went well! What a Christmas gift to yourself!

Who you tell is completely your business.  People don't discuss all their medical business with you and you don't have to tell them. Having said that, it may be obvious to people when you start losing weight really quickly and you might get questions from people who think it's their business or perfectly polite to ask you. (Some may be nicer and just mention that you look like you've lost weight... these are the comments that it's great to get!) Anyway, you might want to think of some way to answer the nosy folks' questions before you're in that spot...

As for me, I had quite a bit to lose (I lost 200 pounds) so I knew it was going to be obvious anyhow and didn't go around announcing it through a loud speaker, but was open with people about why I was going to be gone from work and such ...  and you know what? Every single one of them was soooo supportive! (The negatives mostly came from my own family... lol)