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Morning! Thanks to Annie for trying to get everyone out and posting. I know our lives get busy but we have all been part of this board for quite awhile and it's so nice to see everyone and to hear how things are going in your life. I'm kind of private unless I'm talking one on one with one of my friends but I wanted to share with you the troubles I have had with the dating scene and see if anyone can give me advice. I have been talking to this guy on Singlesnet and finally met him a few weeks ago. We had a great time...wonderful dinner, we danced the night away and I really hated to leave. Anyway we talked on IM alot because he lives in St. Louis about 3 hours from me. I was telling him one day that a friend of mine... our very own Rhonda was having a birthday and I posted a message to her on the OH board. he wanted to know what the OH board is so I told him. He then went on to tell me he doesn't understand that surgery and why people let their selves get so heavy that they have to do this surgery. I was starting to get pissed off and told him I happen to be one of "those people" that had the surgery and I feel like it saved my life. He then went on to say I'm not talking about you, you are beautiful and I like you just the way you are but I couldn't date an obese person....Hello, I use to be obese. he said, I feel like they don't help theirself all they do is sit around and eat and don't get any activity. I thought my head was going to spend around I was so mad by this man judging people without even knowing them. Why it surprised me I don't know.....there are tons of people out there just like him. We were suppose to get together when i went to St. Louis last week but I just couldn't see him. He thinks I look fine now but how would he feel if I gained 5 or 10 pounds...I can't deal with someone that is so judging. This is the second situation I have had when people find out I have had gastric bypass. Am I being to hard on him? I would love to hear your thoughts. Have a great week-end? Hugs!!!! Barb

oh barb i can feel for ya hunny and no u aare not being to hard on him some people just dont understand and some people are not willing to try to ever understand

Hi! How r u feeling Sweetie? I'm going with a bunch of people to Las Vegas, and will only be there 3 days...let's talk that maybe I can sneak away for a few hours just to grab a bite of lunch and be able to meet you! Big Hugs! Barb

To find someone that doesn't judge something the totally don't understand is a hard thing to do. Ya know my obesity did me a favor in that it opened my mind to that fact. I was the typical teenage stud with an attitude and very judgemental of all who weren't perfect like me. It took 25 yeasr but now I am the opposite. I love those that are different and aren't perfect. That means they are special and Gods very own creation. How can ya not help but love them? I must say though I do feel sorry for some and do get embarrassed for the ones that just don't seem to realize they weigh 300+ lbs and really need to loose the thong. When I was big I dressed accordingly just because I had a little pride! NO you aren't being hard on him! if he's that judgemental about weight he'll be that way about other things and it shows a very closed mind in my book! Go find a fat prince that will love ya! Sparky!

Always love my Sparky How r u feeling Honey? Any news yet? Big Hugs! barb

Well the second test came back negative too! Dangit I'm getting tired of hurting. Oh well I am going to concentrate on staying upbeat so not to depress the wife. I just hope they keep beleiving me and don't start thinking I'm a drug seeker! DANGIT!!! I havew so much stuff to do!

Hey you.... I am so sorry they have still not found out what was wrong....that stinks....but keep your spirits up for YOU and Deb....not just Deb....it will help you too..... You are in my thoughts and prayers dear..... Hugs, Annie

Thanks Sweetie. You are the best ya know that? Sparky

Awwwww, thank you......I sure hope you are feeling better and that you got to go to Sacramento (I think that is what Deb said you were going to do)

But I've been complimented on my thong! *pout* tee hee