Quote of the Day 03/10/08

Today's quote is again from the daily reading of .. A DAY AT A TIME.. "In a letter to a friend, AA's co-founder Bill W. once wrote, "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts to the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hoped-for protectors finally flee, and once more we are left alone-- either to grow up or to disintegrate." We discover, in The Program, that the best possible source of emotional stability is our Higher Power. We find that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness and love is healthy, and that it works where nothing else will. DO I DEPEND ON MY HIGHER POWER? May I realize that I am a dependent person, I have depended upon chemicals *food for us too* to alter my moods and attitudes. I have also developed parasitic attachments for others. May I stop making unrealistic emotional demands on others, which only serve to choke off mature human relationships and to leave me bewildered and let down. Only GOD can provide the kind of whole-hearted love which I, as a dependent person, seem to need. May I depend first upon GOD. Today I will Remember... GOD offers perfect love. hugssss

Great point, sometimes hard to remember, but great point. He has done some amazing things in my life!!! This is the one you posted so long ago that I love and try to live by: Life is too short to wake up in the moring with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget the ones who don't, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Rhonda! This so describes my relationship with my Dad! "clinging and abject dependence upon another human being". This how he is with everyone and especially me. While I know why he is like this it can be so smothering! On one hand I understand ( Deb too) and on the other I resent it greatly! I struggle with this daily. Thank god for Deb! She is much more patient with him than I am and spends time with him giving him the emotional food he needs. I guess when you add this quote with the really great stuff that happened in my childhood it is all so conviluted (sp?) that only God can sort it out. I know I ask for patience on a dailey basis. Thank you so much for these quotes! They are really cool! Love ya Darlin Sparky

And you wanted me to date him.

Now that was funny!

Ok, I can hang with this one. It's something I am way way familiar with. Other than a food addiction (which has reared its ugly head and I've gained 80 pounds; well, 30 on my own, 50 with rx's.), I have a people addiction. Actually, not an addiction, but I have abandonment issues. HUGE ones is what one therapist said many years ago. By the time I was 7, we had over 10 deaths of close relatives on both sides of my family. All my grandparents died by the time I was 5. My parents always had the "after funeral" lunches/dinners. Actually, they were forced on them, since they stayed to care for their parents in our hometown. As the therapist commented to me, I had lost so many close loved ones in such a short time frame and in my early formative years, I expect people to leave me. Hence the reason I try to sabotage every relationship I have. And actually, have gotten quite good at it. I either subconsciously choose bad people or I go for the ones that will have no future with me. I live my relationships with the desperate uncertainty of when the next "shoe" will drop. This my friends is why I haven't been with anyone since Bill, a.k.a "Pansy Ass Momma's Boy" from last year. I did irreperable damage there and he will not (with good reason) speak to me or acknowledge me. Now, he was getting to be a little on the Alpha Male side (ok, WAY on that side), so it wouldn't have lasted much longer anyway. But this is why I don't date, don't carry on extremely long term, close friendships, and have only a few "in my circle" people. I learned a long time ago, being left hurts. Leaving doesn't hurt as much. Wow...you don't know how much that hurt to actually type out. This is another reason all of you are getting together with folks and gettin' married. I used up all of my "in love points" early in life. Now, I'll be the cat lady. But, yes, Rhonda. God's love is perfect, even if our own isn't. Liz

FIRST.... SECOND.. if you are of the praying type.. In my book.. A Day at a Time.. the second paragraph is actually what you would Pray for Today.. so.. perhaps that will be the beginning of making a positive change for yourself. There is always time for change! "May I realize that I am a dependent person, I have depended upon chemicals *food for us too* to alter my moods and attitudes. I have also developed parasitic attachments for others. May I stop making unrealistic emotional demands on others, which only serve to choke off mature human relationships and to leave me bewildered and let down. Only GOD can provide the kind of whole-hearted love which I, as a dependent person, seem to need. May I depend first upon GOD." love ya Liz

So I read this on a church marquee today...."making excuses with your conscience is like giving your watchdog sleeping pills" Made me think....how about you? D.

I have to think on it too.. but I like it.

I love the higher power part.. Last time Amir called and asked if he can move home we set the ground rules.. 1) No Drugs, if we find out you are using you are out the door.. Tough love sucks but you have to do it.. because frankly the day comes when you have to let those you love be responsible for themselves... even if they are your child. 2) you must be moving forward with your life, you can not remain stagnant you must be taking steps to improve it. IE. education My son achieved both and is on his way to being the person HE wants to be. He did this for him not us because frankly any drug abuser, drinker etc must make the changes in their life for them, if they do it for others they will fail. And for me personally I had to let him go, I had to put it all in Gods hands, we were there to support and encourage but Amir's changes had to be for Amir not us. And he did it.. Thank you for this one.. Debby