Blondie's Daddy, her New Hubbie and a wild ride...

I come here a lot more than I post, but it's due to the things that I have been living through since 2008 blew in.... Some were wonderful, some where nearly devastating, but I am hanging in there. My father has been "short of breath" since Summer, and finally saw his MD before Thanksgiving. At that time the doctor told him to "come back in after the first of the year" if he wasn't feeling better, and he'd find him a cardiologist. Well 12 weeks later, I decided to take it upon myself (GO Blondie Grrl) to get daddy an appointment with this great Cardio Doc I'd heard about. Three weeks ago we went to our appointment, which turned into an EKG, then sending us to the hospital for a "die test" which was stopped mid-way thru, after the Cardiologist determined dad had 85%-98% blockage on two of his main arteries. My father would not be a candidate for "stinting these arteries" and we would wait until a Thorasic Cardiologist could rush over and "Consult" with us. Three weeks ago, we went in for a painless EKG test, and my dad was admitted to the hospital as their concern was so great he'd not make it through the weekend to be able to return for a Monday Morning Double Bi-pass Open Heart Surgery.... The surgery went fine, but his temperature rose, he retained fluid, his heart began to become Arrythmic, his blood pressure was all over the place.....I never left him....but, I became so exhausted..... Dad could not breathe, and no one would listen to me or my mom. Finally after a week of everyday seeing more issues, his Thorasic Doctor re-admitted him into the ICU.....we thought we were out of the woods.... We waited all day last Saturday, waiting to see daddy in Intesive Care, and finally the doctor came out and said they'd done EKG, Xrays & Cat Scans, and we could go back and see him. We readied ourselves and gathered in the hall....then a security guard and a nurse came to us and wisked us off to a "consultation room".... There it was explained that daddy was crashing and his surgery was performing life saving "measures" to try to bring him back. What we did not know at the time...this incredible doctor crawled up onto daddy and literally operated ON HIM in his hospital room. The doctor massaged his heart and brought him back to life....but daddy was now in a coma. They covered the gapping whole in his chest long enough for us to come in and tell him we loved him....and they would be taking him to the operating room to complete the surgical procedure..... That day was the worst day of my life. My teenager had driven to this town, my poor crippled mother was here, my sister and her family were called in, and Michael came to me. Around 8:30 p.m. the Thorasic surgeon came to me and told me he'd cleared out fluid, infection and blood but couldn't put his finger on why daddy had such a horrible week, and ended up with his heart stopping. I sat in the Intensive Care Waiting Room, for three weeks of being in Jonesboro, AR with my daddy..... I cried for my dad so much, my eyes ended swelling shut on "that" Sunday....I couldn't see...the grief was so intense....I begged God to take care of him and see him through it all. Daddy is home, and has lost weight, and is weak but good. I am finally allowed to be happy with Mike. Now for some joy.....I met someone incredible, and un-fortunately for him...he's had to go from one crisis to another with my family since the day we met, and he's comforted us all, he's loved me, held me up, when I was too weak to stand on my own....He's driven me to dentist appointments, and gotten my medicine when I was to overwhelmed to get to the drugstore....he's seen me through this recent bout of "Shingles" that came on because of the stress of my daddy's hospitalization, and he loves me. We exchanged vowes on 01/23/08, and we are wearing rings we both got each other now. I can't believe at 40 (I will be 40 in Aug) I found someone to put up with my crazy life.... Tears of joy AND sadness have been all around me for 2008. Thanks for listening. Blondie

I'm sorry your dad had to go through all of that.. My dad had what is referred to as "the widow maker" a couple years ago and I totally know how you felt... MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOHOOOOO Congrats!!!! WE WANT PICTURES! Debby

Okay Mrs. Sparky....You HAVE to see the message I posted to your sweet man...read the part that tells spark NOT to "listen"... Baaaad Sherr.... LOL We had a very simple civil ceremony...no pics or flowers.....But, we will be doing something the first week in March...maybe just a 3 day/2 night deal for now.... HOW ON EARTH did you and SPARKY combine two grown up peoples stuff without PULLING OUT YOUR HAIR? OR Killing each other?????

LOL.. well I think in our case it was easy since we were moving me 2000 miles we needed to take as little as possible to avoid paying more in transporation than my stuff was worth!!! LOL we made a list of who had what and who's was in better shape.. since Spark just bought new furniture and I liked it we kept it.. although to be honest letting go of mine was really hard since it was my grandmothers... we kept all of both of our kitchen stuff since you cAN never have enough of stuff like that... we brought my washer and dryer and stored it until we moved into the new house because his was a stacker washer dryer... All relationships are give and take, and compromise... I compromised on the John Wayne picture and he compromised on the pink bedding

WOW what a couple months for you girl! THANK GOD you took it apon yourself to take your Dad in and have him checked. It sounds like you saved his life. He has a good Daughter I think. Sounds like there's another lucky fellow in the world besides me, Martin, Daniel and that Navy guy that has that Babe in Georgia! I am glad things have worked out for ya hun. Hugs, Sparky

Thank you sweetheart. I was alone for 14 years and took a major chance when I started dating last year. I went out on 3 or 4 first dates that were all crazy, nut job men, and then met Michael. He is so right for me. Now for the baaad girly statement....(((close your sweet ears Spark)))) Okay Grrlz, check it...the way I figured it out, I get a present for Xmas, one for our Anniversary (Jan. 23rd) then a Valentine's Day gift... NOT bad...three presents right in a ROW Baaaad Sherr.... OKAY SPARK, you can open your ears back now... xoxo S

Presents are good. I like presents. Deb I want three presents in a row!!!

you called ME a babe???? WOOOOO HOOO...you made my day

Are you kiddin? Surely ya knew right? Luv ya Annie darlin. You're a babe with a brain and your squid is a lucky guy but, I'm sure he don't need me to tell him that. Sparky

you always know how to make a gal feel special! Hope you are feeling fine and enjoyin' the pain meds