Update...on grandpa....

Just wanted to tell you all THANK YOU so much for all your kind words.....and prayers. Grandpa passed away last night. He went VERY peacefully and comfortably. He was so miserable in the hospital with all the tubes and crap, but he became so calm at Hospice. It was TRULY AMAZING how he went. Most of us said our good-byes, but 2 of the family members....and the nurse told us it wouldn't be long, so I called them in IMMEDIATELY. They had their private time. Grandma had been sitting with us in Hospice ALL DAY long, she was tired and just wanted to go home and rest. So Kevin's uncle took my truck to take her home. I walked out with them, and then came back. There were 4 of us left there, Kevin and I, and Kevins uncle and aunt. When I came back in the room, I sat down, ate an M&M, and looked over at Grandpa. He had been taking only 2-4 breathes per minute for hours. I had taken up the responsibility of watching his breathes, since there are no monitors in Hospice. Well, I watched for about 30 seconds....with no breathe. So I jumped up and held his hand, and told him it was OK. Kevin held his hand too. He took a breathe....we called the nurse in....He took one last breathe and then went to sleep. The thing that I find so AMAZING is that I truly feel he didn't want his wife to see him die. She couldn't handle it. He waited for her to leave, and he passed away within minutes. He has taken care of her for 35 years, and in his last minutes of life, still was taking care of her. What a GREAT man! We went back to grandmas house and looked over all his pictures, and awards he received from World War II....While he was in the Navy, he had a journal, that he documented in daily, of what they were doing, where they were going, what ship they were on... WOW!!....It was truly amazing. He was a HUGE part of History and will be MISSED terribly. We are doing OK....Kevin is working through it. It is a very emotional time, and difficult, because he was so healthy up until Friday....but for the most part, everyone is doing as well as they can do. But THANK YOU all for all your support... We luv you guys!!! Jen & Kevin

(I'm terribly awkward in these situation...forgive me)

Nooooooo, don't feel bad.... I actually feel the same. You couldn't have said it better.

Ohhh, and I didn't read your post until AFTER I posted, or I would have held off, so you didn't feel bad. I am sorry.

damn Reboog.. you have me crying here at work. I think you are right.. he waited until she was at home and safe.. before he allowed himself to move on. I pray that her health does not deteriorate as so many do as they age and lose their loved one. I thought of this saying earlier today on the sexy board... and it most certainly applies now. http://cyber-church.com/khandie/ATimeandSeasonforAllThings.htm Thanks for sharing.. you and Kevin and Grandma will be in my prayers!! Hang close to her she's going to need it so much now.

Thank you, princess! I love the quote. I may use some of it. I am going to try to put together a slideshow for the funeral, to play in the background.....including photos of grandpa, and the family....along with a song and some meaningful sayings. I just got to find out how to do it. Big Hugs!!

Jen, I am so very sorry. It's so difficult to lose someone....but he's in a place without pain and without all the tubes and things that only made him miserable. Now he's watching down on all of you....and smiling at what a wonderful family he has. In 2 days, it will mark the 6th anniversary of my cousin's death and I truly do remember how difficult it was to lose someone right before the holidays. But just know that even though this year will be tough for your family...it does get easier. (((Jen & Kevin))) Chris

EXACTLY!! Doesn't ever heal....just gets a little easier each year. I am sorry about your cousin. I also lost a daughter, almost 15 years ago. (December 31, 1992) and although it has gotten easier to deal with over the years....I have never gone out for a NEw Years Eve party, or anything....That is my night to burn a candle and cry. Every year for almost 15 years now. Every year, I get to enter the New Year with puffy eyes.....LUCKY ME. (Sorry that was a funny) LOL Big Hugs, Jen

I don't think I knew that Reboog... how did she die if you don't mind me asking and you sharing?? how old was she..

She died at Birth. She had (4) heart conditions, and a condition called Situs Inversus (sp?)....It is where all of her insides are on the wrong side.... It is as if it was a mirror image. Her heart was on the right side instead of the left. Her stomach was on the right instead of the left, her apendix was on her left instead of her right, etc.... I went into labor at 7 1/2 months.....her heart rate had been running about 30'ish through out the pregnancy, so I knew she would be sick. Normal heart rate is between 130 and 180 for an unborn baby. But when I got to the hospital, she passed. Part of me is glad that she never had to endure heart surgeries, and pain, and trouble breathing....the other part of me was selfish and wanted to hold her and change her diapers, and feed her, and love her. I know it was better for her. But I was always bothered because I hear that God puts you on this earth to serve a purpose and when its your time, you go....Well, she never even got the chance to serve her purpose.... Anyway......Can you imagine.....My poor son would have had 5 sisters. Poor boy! Thanks for asking though.....I love remembering her..... her name is Destiny. My daughter named her newest baby after her, in her memory. That made me happy.