Memorials.....

I read them BEFORE I had surgery.....and decided last night to read them again...... OMG.....I was in tears for about 2 hours straight. It was nice to remember Cesar, our friend. I miss him. He was one of the funniest guys.....Always telling a fun story... http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=L1110820131 There is a lady, she passed away just in the past few weeks, She was the sole caretaker of her handicapped adult daughter, and she took her daughter with her. Did a murder/suicide. She put her daughter in the car, and got in herself, in the garage, ran the engine, and killed both of them. Even all of her cats inside the house died. She didn't trust that her daughter would be cared for if she left her behind.... SAD. http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/alicem/ This is the one story that makes me the saddest, I don't know why, maybe cause she was soooo young, maybe cause she went for treatment, but the doctor sent her home, I don't know....but read the last entry on her profile... http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=T994675225 Don't mean to make anyone sad.....just nice to remember those that have passed on. Hugs, Jen

it is sad about the last lady.. so young.. searching for help.. and passed away. story below.. not really wls related except thru ME.. who had wls.. Reminds me of my best friend in my teens.. we partied together.. and had a fallin out. Funny.. cuz it was over a man that I have no idea his name. She and I tend to "like" the same men. BUT.. we had a fight that lasted for many years.. we drifted apart.. she married.. adopted a baby *thought she couldn't have one* and shortly after adopting became pregnant. We did kinda made up.. and I visited her and her girls a couple times.. One night another friend of ours called me and said Vickie was dead. I balled that night.. Vickie went in to have a cyst taken off her ovary.. and bled to death on the table. It just seems senseless.. such an easy outpatient surgery and gone. I thought of her alot when I was scheduled for my RNY.. and even mention her in my profile.. cuz I was soo scared. She was in her early 30's and left behind 2 very young girls.. and a husband. I have thought of her often lately.. cuz I'm thinking alot of my past trying to get together my Forth Step in AA.. and the other day she came to mind while meditating and I just think that she's up there smiling down at me. I LOVE HER.. and I hope/pray that her family is well. I use to have alot of drinking times with her.. and loved her mom/dad.. sister and brothers too. We were all very active in youth church together too.. her parents were youth coaches at church... *damn now I have a tear in my eye*.. but I remember spending alot of days/evenings at her home when she lived with her parents.. us sneaking out and drinking.. me throwing up in her bed slow gin fizzies and saying but Vickie I feel better now.. and sneaking down to wash the sheets.. her and I arguing cuz she wanted to meet this truck driver that she was talking to on the CB.. and I said no.. and she said I was mean to her. So I pulled up behind him on the expressway.. and told her to GET OUT if she wanted to meet him there she was.. .. she didn't but I think she did get his number.. I think I need to get in touch with her mom/dad sometime soon just to say hello.. and that I think of Vickie quite often to be honest.. I'm not ever sure if they are still living.. but I think I should see. Thanks Jen for sharing and letting me share my story

Awww, Thank you for sharing.... I think you should contact Mom/Dad.....I bet they would love to hear from you. Big Hugs to you... Jen