Need advice

Hi Everyone, I was wondering if anyone else had felt this way. I've had the surgery, and have lost about 150lbs. And I have been feeling very depressed. I have been feeling like I'm not very pretty as much, I'm not that attractive anymore. I've been feeling that I'm still really fat. I see all my extra skin and my arms hanging and it really depresses me. Sometimes even if someone talks to me about my weight and the way I used to be, I cry. And even now, I have cried if I even begin to talk about my weight now. I down to about 155, but I haven't had my tummy tuck or anything yet. I started a new job and I have to wait to have the surgery so that i can build a rapport with my job I'm at now. But, I was wondering if anyone else had felt this way before? Thanks. Tifani

Oh my gosh... of course. I have rolls that won't go away (mainly babyness leftovers along with the weight I never lost, I think)... and when I put jeans on have to wiggle the rolls into them it makes me feel huge. The jeans are now size 14... not 26... but looking down at the rolls makes me feel as fat as before. And then there is the fact that due to skin I still cant' wear shorts or a nice bathing suit. And when I lose more weight (I had for a while, while pregnant and breastfeeding) my neck skin hangs worse and I look SOOOO old. It really makes me feel unattractive. Heck... post your question on the main board too. You'll get many people saying the same thing.

The first thing you should know is that you are not alone, I think it is rather common. I know that I fell the same way about myself sometimes, I feel like how can some guy truly be physically attracted to me with all my saggy skin and other issues. My sister all ways tells that I need focus on the all of the positive changes in my life, like the fact that I think I look pretty damn good all dressed up and my improved health. Still this can be hard to do. You might try counseling as an option, often a counselor can be a good sounding board and someone who can guide you in improving your body image. If you fell it is really bad perhaps you might try talking to your doctor about going on antidepressants better yet see a psychiatrist. [I recommend a psychiatrist over general practitioner because the specialize in mood/emotional disorders and in my experience know more about the drugs they are dispensing for those issues. That is just my opinion on it.] Lisa

Absolutely. Everyday of my life. Good luck on getting the tummy tuck. I need a whole lot more than that to fix me.... starting with brain surgery. LOL Hugs, Jen

Hi Tifani.. wanted to welcome you to the board.. I have my good days.. and bad days.. with hanging skin.. boobs.. belly.. thighs. Just like alot of things in life that I gotta deal with.. but MOST days.. it's all good and I'm loving it. Hang in there.. think or make a list of all to be grateful for.. look and re-read it everyday. If your REALLY depressed.. talk to your surgeon.. could be chemical imbalance. hugss, Rhonda