OT: eating disorders..

so I'm sitting here talking to my friend Kim.. about addictions.. she has one for an old boyfriend that she is working on over******* and her son is just like her..(only a girlfriend) and I said the apple didn't fall far from the tree.. you can't be mad at him.. she said.. yeah I know. and I said.. I wonder where you learned that behavior from cuz according to Phil.. it's learned behavior.. and she said.. I don't know. and then I said.. I wonder why my eating disorder has to come from "something".. how come it can't be.. "just cuz the food tastes so damn good.. " cuz it does.. Oprah.. says there are underlying reasons for being fat.. I reckon her's is cuz she was molested as a child.. I reckon.. I don't know why I do.. besides the fact that fatting food tastes so damn good does anyone else here just like the taste of food and don't know WHY they eat it other than pure enjoyment..?? and is there really underlying issues.. that I need to find still

I think, for some, it really is a matter of just eating for the enjoyment of eating. It tastes good.....and they gain weight because they take in more calories than they burn off. But then there are those, like myself, that have a food issue. I use food. I use it to feel good when I feel bad about myself. I use it to relieve stress. I use it to relieve boredom. I use it as a reward system. I use it to pretty much try to fix anything in my life. I know it's not the answer....but's it's hard to break the pattern. I'm not sure where it started. I've been overweight my entire life so it's not something that has started recently. I suppose I could have picked it up from family members though none ever got as large as I did. But I guess it's not about the weight as much as it as about the behavior. So.....whether or not you have underlying eating issues.....I don't know. Only you would be the best judge of that. I recently found a website called innerdiet.com It says you can't change your weight until you change your mind. Basically, it says that for those that struggle with their weight....that dieting alone won't wor****il they figure out the mental issues behind their eating. For me, it's very accurate. You have to order a personalized profile and workbook....but it's been worth it for me. It showed my weaknesses and how to address them. I'm a stress eater and I lack inner control. Knowing it is easy....dealing with it is the hard part. I'm still working on that!!

I consider that I have quite a bit of will power but for some reason not so much when food is involved... abstinence is better than moderation.. shame we can't do that with food.. I'll have to check out that website

Mine's not a disorder, but I eat purely out of boredom and/or emotions. I find when I home, w/ nothing to do I head to the kitchen. When I am busy I can go all day without eating. Or when I am sad or down in the dumps...I look for candy/cookies to comfort me. Now if I could just be happy, and busy all the time, then I would be super skinny!!

I agree on the boredom.. that's me.. AND cuz it tastes good.. when at work sitting at the desk all day.. I wanna graze.. I'm not sooo bad at home tho.. a little bit naughty. When I'm out all day.. doing stuff.. I won't think to eat. but also on the favorite season thing.. fall reminds me of all the good food.. like cinnamon rolls pancakes french toast breads.. pumpkin.. banana nut.. zucchini carmel apples cakes donuts.. so maybe fall should not be my favorite season.. or maybe that's WHY it's my favoritei do have issues..

I'm not really sure. but there were donuts in the meeting I just left & I wanted to eat the whole box. but I didnt have any. no cider either that was supplied. p.s. my overeating was/is a symptom of a problem...which I am addressing. and frankly sick of addressing it. be healed already dammit.

you can have the box.. I want the DONUTS guess you are feeling better today too.. your belly.. what did you eat for supper that made you so violently ill and are you having left overs today

I still do not fell well. but am not puking, so thats good. I ate crackers earlier and even that hurt. I want to go home, but cant. it was taco meat. I dont think I drained it enough. or at all. it was ground round. there wasnt much to drain. whatever.

I think mine (and Kevin's) is because I was brought up by a bunch of Italians.... They are constantly saying "Eat, Eat, Eat...." Kevins grandparents come over here and still tell both of us, "Eat, Eat, Eat" We try to tell them, "We cant eat, we had the surgery" and they say "That doesnt matter, you need to eat" I guess we can't win that battle. During my first marriage, I believe I ate not only because of the Italian in me....but because my husband was verbally/physically/emotionally/mentally abusive.... Every single day I was a "Fat, Ugly *****" I am a firm believer that when someone is told something every single day, they will become that. I am not mad about it, I learned that I can use his technique too......for my children....telling them that they are beautiful and smart...... and it works....they are sooooo beautiful and smart. But I must say.....I do also LOVE the taste of food. Hugs, Jen

your story reminds me of my childhood.. COUNTRY.. going every sunday to grandma's for country fried chicken.. mashed taters, gravy, corn, peas, green beans, baked beans, cabbage, tomatoes, cucumbers, salad, cornbread/dinner rolls.. and sweet tea and then desserts.. I go to mom's house now.. look in the "cookie" drawer.. 2 to 3 boxes of cookies.. fritos.. chips.. little debbies.. ho-hos.. look on counter.. pumpkin pie.. danishes.. can on nuts.. candy corn.. we eat.. and she says.. Rhonda you better watch your weight.. and Daniels.. you don't wanna get fat again. Then says.. you want any of this pie to take home.. I could NEVER live there again.. and think I would maintain weight... but I do love visiting and stealing a cookie now and then.. or taking a piece or two of pumpkin pie home with me