I need HELP

Ok so here is the situation my best friend who is this amazingly awesome girl she is just the best you know well lately we've been spending SO much time together and she is beautiful a lil heavy for her body type but i think she is absolutely gorgeous so we are up on the strip the other night and these guys stop us and invite us to a club well 4 one sheis to young and 2 i am no where near interested but you know that invite is always nice we say no and then he turns to her and says by the way your very beautiful and walks away and see for me this is NO BIG DEAL it has happened before but for her she feels all guilty and on her yahoo is a pic of us and some guys have said some mean things about me in the pic which agian dont bother me but is upseetting her what worries me is she cant take the glory of a compliment to her for the fear that it hurts me it doesn't i think she is beautiful and i am finally at a place where i know i am a beautiful person her and my family and friends telling me it is enough because i tell myself it every day how do i help her i dont know what to do anymore

sounds like you're doing fine by setting an example for her. she owns her feelings, you don't. but by showing her that you're confident and happy and don't let these things bother you, you set a good example. Sometimes that's the best thing we can do, owning our own feelings proudly.

Ya know you're pretty insightful for an ole fart. Now we just need to work on your taste in music. Couldn't help myself! Happy Friday my friend! Rock ON! Kiss that beautiful wife for me. Sparky

Ditto what Jay said. Let her know how you feel through your words and actions. After that....it's up to her.

hijack! nice new avatar Chris!

I was going to post about telling her this.. and that.. but I waited and glad I did.. as I feel that Jay is right. Altho you don't want her to feel bad or uncomfortable.. anything you say I don't think will change how she feels. And that probably even gives her humility which adds to her beauty. Just embrace her and let her know that you are happy. and you really are a beautiful person..

you guys are all so awesome and amazing thank you guys for your help!?!?!

What a kind and generous person you are to be asking this question! How lucky your friend is to know you. Why don't you try talking to her and saying something like this: "Kelly, you are one of my best friends and I really treasure our friendship. Because i care so much about you, I want to let you know that when you reject a compliment because you're worried about how I will feel, it hurts me a little bit. It hurts me that you might think I am not ok with it, or that I feel I need to compete with you, or that I don't think I am beautiful. Maybe you're not thinking these things, but just in case you are - it's ok. I want you to accept compliments because you are beautiful and as your friend, I am happy when people compliment you. It doesn't have anything to do with me and I don't worry for one second about it being a reflection on me. So I'd like to ask you to not worry about it and to trust me - if something ever bothers me, I promise to tell you." How does this sound to you?

Great advice.. followed with some great credientials.. Welcome to the Board hope you stay and participate.. I think some of us SPARKIE.. can use some of your help...

thank you so much i will tell her