Question regarding explaining your choice to have surgery to family

I'm having an emotional struggle with the debate behind telling my mother and father. I felt them out prior to my consultations with the Nurse Practitioner and the intia consultation and they are completely against the idea. They think that a 29 year old has no "excuse" to lose the weight on my own. I don't agree and am firm with my decision. I am debating between waiting till after my surgery and telling them in person. My husband is AD AF and we are stationed a few states away from my family which allows them to not know what's going on in our lives. However, the reality with no question, is that complications CAN happen. I understood that from the getgo, however I'm having second thoughts about waiting. Is there anyone who has gone through something similar and can help me encourage acceptance and not approval from my family. All of my friends are incredibly supportive and are ready to do what is necessary but what do you do when you really want your parents to back you and say, "I think you will do what's best for you."

i guess in my opinion you just have to let go of expectations. accept the fact that your family doesn't want you to do it, and deal with it. i'd tell them. and i'd accept that they might not approve but i'd remind them that i love them and hope that no matter what they'd love you. good luck.

Yep, What he said.

I would recommend telling them...make it clear that you have made this choice that it isn't something you want to debate with them. If they don't initially seem supportive ask them why...sometimes a lack of support for the procedure comes from fear. It can help to have them talk to people who have had the surgery...if they lived closer I would suggest seeking out a local support group and having them go with you if they were willing.

Can you attend support groups if you're not having surgery with the local physicians? Perhaps when I go down in a few weeks I can have a local support group to my family that maybe we could go together to.