really stupid question

*this is not meant to offend anyone so if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it* it's just my personal rant for a Monday morning Why do men (and some women) think it's ok to judge a persons behavior due to marital status? If a married woman talks to a man then they are accused of cheating or wanting to cheat. Sometimes you find that you just enjoy a persons conversations and different outlook on life. Some people look beyond appearences and actually look th the PERSON as an individual. Married or not ..... african...mexican.....caucasion..... Jewish.... Catholic.... gay ...... straight ....... who the hell cares !!!!! PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE and every one of us have our own personal reasons for the choices we make in our life and some of us are honest about them and don't feel the need to lie

No offense here, because I believe the same way. If you're friends with someone, that should not have to change due to a marriage or relationship. I've broken up with boyfriends who insisted I ditch my 20 yr friend, Shawn (male), because he's a single man. Uh yes, he is, but he's a big ol nelly gay man. Out tha door to the BF. Whatever sparked this, I wish you didn't have to go through it. If the trust is there in the marriage, then that's all that should matter. If someone is small brained and don't think friendships can happen with a marrigae, well, get into the 21st century.

It doesn't have anything to do with Kelley.... the trust with us is great.... I know i have gotten lots of heck for the way I talk to other guys here and i don't think that i am inappropriate in any conversations i've had I was accused of hitting on someone for giving out my # a lot of people have my # and Kelley knows it.... Rhonda .... i WA****ting on YOU I like the people here .... guys AND gals..... and i enjoy a man's input.... i don't always agree or even take their advice but i do like a different view.... just as i do all the happenings in everyones life and I also enjoyed Rhonda's pics and didn't find them boring at all.... if your a friend then what's important and enjoyable to you makes it important and enjoyable for me also

Hi Tina, Not a stupid question at all....just one I think holds a different answer for everyone. Personally, I have no problem with a married person being friends with a single person. One of my best friends is a guy and is married. His wife knows how close we are and has no problem with it. The only time I really have a problem is when the married friend is out for 'friends with benefits'. I've never been married, but it's something that I highly respect. The same goes for friends that have a significant other....it's a relationship that I'd never mess with, no matter how cute the guy! So it royally ticks me off to see someone in a committed relationship going out to 'get some'. I believe in either fixing the problem with the one you're with or calling it quits......no fooling around just because the relationship is rocky. Maybe I have a very simplistic view. And maybe because I've not experienced marriage or a long lasting relationship I'm not equipped to make an informed opinion....but it's my opinion nonetheless!

i think your very qualified to make an informed opinion and i COMPLETELY agree with you on your view of the *friends with benefits* i don't believe in such a thing

Hi Christina.... I agree so much with you..... I have lots of guy friends, and I chat on-line with guys all the time. I am a HUGE flirt!! As a matter of fact, women don't really like me... LOL Some people judge me..... but to be honest, the people that matter most to me, know exactly who I am, what kind of person I am, and how much love I have for my husband..... So I could care less what other people say. Hugs, Jen

My opinion - for what it's worth - is that it depends on if the married person is open about being married, and if the single person misunderstands about the intention. What other people believe (outside of the two people) is immaterial...if someone outside of you, Kelley and the man gives an unsolicited opinion, just say ..oh, thanks. Flip your hair, and walk away. Just my opinion. (waiting for the hair flip)

Tina, Thanks for the post. To be *completely* honest, I'm not sure how I really feel on the subject. I'm not married yet. But I'm not sure how I would feel if my husband had a female best friend, who was single. Would I be okay with them going off, spending time together, talking on the phone every day, etc? Honestly...I don't know. My first (prideful) thought is "Why does he need this woman?" And yes, if the single best friend were a guy, there'd be no problem. Hypocritical? Probably. My first rational thought is "I trust him so I'd be okay with it." And maybe I really would be. Now, on the other side of this coin, as the single woman friends with a married man. Wow, let me tell you how upset she gets when he mentions my name or she sees us talking at work (we all work at the same place). Granted, they admittedly have other problems going on in their marriage, but that puts me in a tough spot. I don't want to cause anyone trouble in a relationship. So there's my ramble. People may not like or agree with my answer, but I did say I was being honest. ~Kat

hi Kat i didn't necessarily mean *best* friends or single.... just opposite sex..... I have a friend that i grew up with and we were *sweeties* about 25 years ago (looooongggg time) we still keep in touch ..... maybe once or twice a year ...... my name cannot be mentioned at any time his wife is around.... she hates me ..... and her and i also grew up together and were friends before they got married.... btw.... i have some cruise info for 2008.... Ryan had mentioned that you and him maybe interested in going

Yeah, send the info if you would. We have a date of 6/7/08 for "the big day" so it'll depend on how far apart the scheduled trip is. Thanks!!