Sooo this is where everyone is!

was missing you guys Were you tryin' to ditch me??

.. no way.. I posted on the other site the reason why we moved.. here it is again.. and I think Tina even posted where we went this morning in her Good Morning post http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/wls_singles/postdetail/220339.html?vc=0 glad you joined us

I saw your post Rhonda about possibly changing the name but I guess I didn't see any of the follow up posts. I feel bad that everyone felt they had to move because one guy voiced his opinion. That makes me sad. I hope Ron is happy that he chased everyone off. The singles board was my OH home and now if I go there to post most of my OH family won't be there.

it wasn't just one person that caused me to come here.... it was also knowing that Debby said she has received emails asking why she is there.. and I think Tina has gotten emails also.. since **** has calmed down.. and other "singles" did state in Kellee's post about it that they liked having "couples" there.. and Ron for whatever reason is not posting there.. I have thought of going back regularly.. but decided it's not worth having this come up again.. since it is labeled SINGLES on the board.. and since coming here I've gotten to play with Dawn and Jenn whom feel MORE AT HOME here.. and others do post more cuz they feel as if they won't ruffle anyones feathers.. That's why I'm staying here, hope you and Jay do also.. and as other OH family learn of where we are.. I'm sure they will join us also.

Well, I have to tell you guys, I'd rather be friends with Sas & Ron, Mel & Jay, Deb & Spark annnnnnnnny day of the week than any single WLS guy that I know.... You guys ALL have your "**** together" are all so very kind and non-judgemental to me, and very VERY special. I LOVE the new place we've found. It has made the trouble makers stay away, and for that I am greatful. I could care less about the SINGLE Board....it could implode on itself now. I am just so thankful that you guys each found your life partner......I'd rather hang out with any of you guys, because people in LOVE are nicer company, versus some single, un-sexed grumpy lump.... I am talking to various online boy toyz, but I could care less if I ever become part of a couple, I actually don't think I have enough compromising skills in my toybox to WANT to be part of a couple..... THANK YOU EACH OF YOU FOR COMING HERE...you guys make it HOME, wherever we end up! Love you Sherr

Awww Sherr... that's so nice of you to say. I gotta tell ya though...I definitely don't have all my **** together... but I'm working on it. Having Jay in my life makes that job much easier.... I have my own little cheering section when things get rough. Change is difficult for many people. It takes them awhile to come to terms with change even if they realize that the change may not be such a bad thing. While I'm sad for the **reasons** people felt the need to leave the Singles board, I'm glad to have found my online family again and that we have a place to talk and support one another without fear of retribution or ridicule. I do have a problem with people bullying others in order to get them to feel uncomfortable enough that they feel they need to stop posting or leave all together. After what happened with Dan and Rhonda last week, I real felt like I saw a lot of community there. People pulling together to help two of own. It made me feel so much closer to everyone (if that's possible when I haven't even met most people) But essentially I feel like you, home is wherever my friends are.

Okay. I guess its more difficult for the people who basically "started" the Singles Board to understand his (Ron's) opinion on things. You and I, along with a handleful of other people, bonded from the get go. (We didnt "start" the board by any means, but we got it going...long before Ron ever came along.) None of us ever went there with the assumption that we were going to find "mates" I found something not even I could imagine. Friends. Friends that I know will be around forever. Some of those friends have had babies, others have gotten married, and some have found significant others. So maybe as a newcomer, it might be a little perplexing at first to see such a diverse group of people on a "sinlges" board, however, there are people there that know the history of that site. Do I think that there are "hords" of people emailing others privately about the shock and disappointment of married and "taken" people there? HAHAHA, nope. Do I think there are a select few that maybe wonder what is up? probably. I think the diversity is what makes the board so great. Especially for the newcomers. If nothing else, it shows that there is hope and love post op...however, getting there is a journey, one that we all must make our own way. ya know? I dont think it was fair that he lashed out about people posting about upcoing nuptuals...I think that was meant for one person and one person only. He should have taken his "beef" up with her privately and not offend others in doing so. I always maintain, if you dont like a person, dont read their posts and dont comment. Maybe I dont have room to comment about this situation because I have been absent from the board for my own peronsal reasons. I was brought into this "drama" by a dear friend because of my "history" with him and the offense she took to the post. For me, it was cool to see that you came over here, but thats my own selfishness. Rhonda, I am glad that you popped over here. You meant no harm to anyone simply because I know what type of peron you are. I agree with you completely that everything happens for a reason. The sinlges board has changed, and so have the people. Thats life. I dont really know what my point is in this post. I just want you to know that I love you, and I wish you werent hurt by this crap. Im glad to be playing with you again, thats all

as I mentioned to someone in a PM... (not word for word).. I don't think that couples or married people took over the SINGLES BOARD.. I think that WE (along with single people) ARE the board.. the board is a group of people who are friends. Just like the SEX BOARD has a tight bond of friends there... they don't talk just about SEX.. they talk about family.. health.. and just general life issues also. The commonality that we all had on the singles board.. was that we were single people when we started there. the end of what I said in PM.. and.. I don't like to think that I allowed someone to run me off.. I'm not sure if that happened.. or if I was just trying to please everyone and it happened so quickly.. and lord knows I've been thru hell lately anyways.. that it just happened. And I am glad because I have some "old friends" back.. and meeting some new ones too.. and the friends that I had know where I am if they want to talk to me. Thanks Dawn for your message.. sometimes.. it sucks when you start questioning yourself and motives..... but with the friends I have.. I know that I'm loved.. and if I ever did anything mean intentionally I would hope a good friend wouldn't hesitate to let me know and kick my ass.. and my babies momma always has permission to do just that love you

i'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I'm angry. and i feel that something precious with history and deep meaning to my life has been taken away. THAT board, THAT one, saved my life. Gave me joy. Gave me HOPE. Gave me friends. GAVE ME MY SOUL MATE. And that makes me unfit to post there? You'd think i'd have more to offer in support to a single WLS patient than people who are just looking for classified ads. That board means something to me. It means a lot to me. i'm going to go bang my head against the wall. they just keep pushing and pushing. everyone always wants to take something away from someone else. *SIGH*

I don't know what to think. One second I am posting and replying on the Singles Board and the next I am on a Family and Friends Support Board. Wasn't Family and Friends the name of a Verizon telephone calling plan at one time?