question....

We go get our marriage license this morning, I flat out ask, is it going to show up on the marriage license that I was divorced? "yep" Is there anyway I can get it not to say that? "nope" With that being said, Mike's mom works at the church(super christian woman, very judgemental) we are getting married at and does all the paper work on weddings. She has no idea of me being married, I personally didn't think it was anyone's business. She also has no idea about my deceased son, again no one's business. How do I stratigically tell mikes mom and dad that yes, I've been divorced, and when I do become pregant (which it's quite possible I am now) why I will be on high alert and in panic mode the majority of the time. How do I tell them these things and also tell them don't pass judgement on me, and don't hold said things over my head later on down the line...his mom's good for that. Suggestions please....

personally I think I would leave that for Mike to go tell them and deal with their response and questions.. and that's it!! simple huh..

He wouldn't have any answers for them. And these aren't issues of mikes, they are mine.

YES.. but he loves you.. and they are his parents.. he should just sit down and tell them.. and if they want to be negative he can explain that he knew this and loves you and that's it. They can accept it or not... just MO.. of course you are gonna what feels right for you tho.. cuz I always do..

Well it's too f'in late now....I already called mike's mom this morning in trafic and told her i'm comin over.....my stomach's flip floppin.... I'm eatin peanut butter by the spoonful's 4th liter of water, by the way...

Call Mike and ask his advice.. you can always say.. somethin' came up.. or send Mike instead... he can tell her you have been eaten up with all this.. and then tell her hisself..

oh yeah.. and I'm on my 2nd pot of coffee no water..

I think Rhonda is right. And ya know what? They are his now also. Better or worse? They are his parents and HE needs to set the tone as far as what he will allow when it comes to you. His parents need to know right now that he loves you for who you are and the past is the past period. There's 2 cents of billiance for ya! Hugs, Sparky

EXCELLENT advise Dr Phil

BTW.. CONGRATULATIONS... IF YOUR PREGNANT