Never lost all the weight...sigh...

Hi there,
I had RNY in Canada, July 26, 2010...first 6 months the weight jusst fell off....I only lost 60ish lbs and then the weight loss stopped...I thought I was just stalled, but nope, haven't gained any but haven't lost another lb..sigh.  I feel like a real failure, why not me?  Others in my group got to their goals...I did the same things as they did, and I never did.  I'm depressed and embarressed about it.
Others talk about did you see so and so how much weight she lost with her surgery and they just skip over me.  I'm still 230 lbs. 
Any input? advice?  similar stories?

thanks
j

hi J
I know how you feel. I have the lapband and I lost almost 100 pounds. it did not work for me and I have gain back my 100 pounds. I had GERD really really really bad. I am schedule for SLEEVE bypass in November. I know you want to down yourself but you have lost 60 pounds. remember the vibes you put out is what you get back. So start putting out good vibes and you will lose the rest.
I am here for you.And others are tooo.

Markseyes

If you have GERD, shouldn't you be doing ANY?

Haveyou discussed this with the bariatric clinic?  what to they have to say?

I never lost all my weight either.  I bottomed out around 9 months post-op with a 100lb loss.  I am only 5'4" and at almost 2 years out I am about 183.  My goal weight is 140, so I obviously still have a long way to go.  I have just started a 3 day a week routine at the gym and started focusing more on getting all my protein in.  I am one of those that never gets hungry after the surgery, so I sometimes go all day without eating, which I know is not good.

Everybody is different. increase your protein and fluids, and exercise daily. also set up appointments with your surgeon and NUT.

Every RNY is different.  You might have a less restrictive surgery than others in your group.  Typically people lose the first year, maintain the second year and regain the 3rd year.  (Hopefully they won't regain too much).  My surgery failed me too.  It really is very embarrassing.  Many of the people on this forum do understand, but there are those that blame us and have all kinds of advice.  Usually they are the ones that have working RNYs.  I have read countless number of "blogs" from successful people.  They have limitations from their surgery and "can't eat another bite" or "I was sick for an hour after I ate ....".  I never vomited, dumped or got sick from any food.  I try to follow a general diet with fruit and veggies.  I swim and bike at my club.  I typically weigh 195 which is 60 lbs. above normal BMI.  Currently I am 214 lbs.  Believe it or not I diet to keep my calories under 2000 per day.  This is definitely not what I expected from bariatric surgery.  I found it easier to diet before surgery.  I am seeing a bariatric psychologist tomorrow to learn coping mechanisms to deal with my continual hunger and shame.  Keep your chin up you are not alone.  Truth be told 20 to 30% of RNYs fail.  Tri

I wish I had a bariatric psychologist. There is a very nice psychologist who works for the Bariatric Center where I had the RNY, but she keeps everything on a strictly behavioral-cognitive level. I need something deeper. Actually, I need a magic fairy godmother more than I need a shrink.

I've been at the same weight for two months now. The first month I stayed on plan and didn't lose. The second month I figured, Why try? I ate badly and stayed at the same weight. That sure did reinforce bad behavior!

Oh, God, I so do not want to be one of the failures. Yet I have no idea what to change in order to succeed. It's good to know I'm not the only one.

Other forums can be discouraging, what with the instant weight loss stories (I lost 100 pounds in 4 months and reached goal! Behold me and bow down, for I am awesome!) and not being allowed to admit that sometimes WLS does not work.

I'm better off now with a small weight loss, but am still obese. I won't give up, I won't surrender, but I feel beaten down.

Thank you for being here.

Hi Dagne, I have to say that your post really struck a chord for me!  The needing a fairy-godmother and a wish to be granted!  The feeling of not knowing what to do to reach your health and weight loss goals!  It can be so overwhelming!  I am hoping this finds message finds you in a better position with things moving again for you!  Thank you for sharing your story!