FAILED RNY!!!! What Do I DO?

Hi

I had RNY Gastric Bypass October 14th 2010. I have lost a total of 40lbs. Thats it!  I from day one could tolerate sugar, starches, bread, my stomach is big enough for me to eat a kids meal at Mcdonalds.
The reason I had this surgery is because it is suppose to make you intolerable to sugars. I am addicted to sugar and could not get myself to stop eating it. So I wanted the sugar for the restriction of sugar and the amount of food I could take in.

I'm so upset I stopped losing weight as of December 2010 and the scale has barely moved since. Do I call my doctor and complain? Do I call a Lawyer?
I understand that I shouldn't be eating sugar but I have a problem and that is why I went so far as surgery to correct it. What happens when that surgery doesn't work??? Was all my hard work for nothing?
I know you are suppose to watch your weight and diet and so on but if I was going to have to do this on my own from day one what was the purpose for this expensive surgery?

Are you serious?  Hun, if you thought that having WLS surgery alone...ANY kind of WLS...would make you lose weight, you didn't do your research.  Didn't your surgeon talk to you about the importance of making healthy choices, exercise, protein, water, vitamins, etc?  Do you have a nutritionist?  The surgery has not failed you and there is no lawyer in this country that would take this "case".  Only 40 % of RNY patients end up being sensitive to sugar (ie. dumping).  I find it hard to believe that if you told your surgeon this is the reason you wanted the surgery that he would have still performed the procedure.  Your RNY is a tool, nothing more.  There is no magic to it.  It helps you lose weight when you follow the rules.  You still have that tool.  Get back on track, focus on protein forward foods only, get at least 64 ounces of water in and you WILL lose weight.  I had my RNY in December and have lost 66 lbs as of today.  AND I have limited mobility so I can't even work out like some people do.  Stay away from the sugar, starches and bread.  Those do not provide you with anything healthy that you need.  Keep a food journal and show it to yoru surgeon or NUT.  They will help get you back on track.  You can do this!  Post on the RNY forum and people there will help you.

Yes I'm serious! Its easy for someone that is experiencing significant weightloss to say diet diet diet. I had my surgery 2 months prior to yours and have experienced less weightloss. In the beginning the doctors, the dieticians and so on preach protien, die****er = weightloss. No one has anything to say when your losing 1lb or 4 oz a week and your doing what your being told to do. It is disappointing and devastating. All the work and barely any food should equal to more than a pound a week when you've just risked your life to lose this weight.
Yes, I've jumped off the band wagon because there are still issues that I had before surgery that still exist. I was 305 before surgery, my pre surgery diet brung me down to 297 day of surgery. I am at 263 and it has been just about 6 months since I've had surgery.
After being so dissappointed I stopped caring about the scale and diet and so on. Thats when I realized that I can tolerate anything in moderation of course and that led me to believe that this surgery did absolutely nothing for me but restrict the amount of food I could eat at once. What a waste for me. I could of done this crap without being opened up because obviously my body didn't do what everyone screamed this miracle of a surgery would do. I need help,serious help and that is the reason i had the surgery,not because I thought that I would wake up in the hospital and be skinny i needed help losing the weight because I could not do it all on my own!  Where is the help?

Wow. I got my surgery(RNY) in Oct of '04. Starting weight of 303. Lowest weight 140, now 175, this is after pregnancies and quitting smoking in the past year. You have to utilize your TOOL. You have to step up and do some research and actually watch what you eat and exercise.

I am 6 years out and my tool still works. I have to utilize.

You ask where is the help? You must help yourself. NO ONE will do it for you. Do your research. Did you really think this surgery was going to make you intolerable to sugar? Your surgeon and medical team is a wreck if they allowed you to get the surgery without educating you first.

Your TOOL still works. You need to use it.

PS- I got this surgery to save my life. To help me, help myself. I am happy to say that I am disease free. I'm not slowly watching myself die of fat ridden diseases.

Make the right choices. Own up to YOUR choices. Surgery is not a magic trick.

To Pittsburg Cutie (et. al,),

Thank you for your response, which is the one that makes the most sense to the question asked by the one seeking help, and to me (Use the tool).

I had RNY in November 2004 and lost 100 lbs. the first year, by adhering to the guidelines and exercising 5 days a week.

I maintained that loss for 5 years via diet and exercise until a series of accidents threw me off my game, including multiple broken bones, a TBI, two knee replacements, and about a year of painful physical therapy.

I ate my way through the pain and the physical therapy.

I am mostly back to normal with some permanent limitations.

However, because 1) I stopped exercising 2) began drinking with meals,  and 3) Ate things that I shouldn't, but things that wouldn't make me dump, I have regained I would say 80% of my initial weight loss.

I don't see myself as a failure, because I kept most of that weight off for 8 years after the surgery-- which 1) is longer than I have maintained any weight loss in the past, 2) is longer than the scientifically reported average. So even though I started to regain, I did so very slowly.

I know that I can get it off again once I 1) Start my exercise routine up again, and, importantly,  2) as you said, USE THE TOOL.

I came here to find ways to get myself back on track after my lengthy ordeal.  Unfortunately,  the responses include mostly "this is what you are doing wrong" or "this is why you aren't losing weight". 

I don't need help with that. 

I know why and how it happened. 

I am looking for a community of support from people who have had a challenge similar to mine and have overcome it.  People who struggled with a significant regain after surgery and overcame it, not a bunch of newbies less than a year out who haven't lived enough post-surgery life to know what overcoming this challenge takes.

I have not seen posts from anyone on this forum with that kind of experience, leading people with this challenge over their obstacles back to success.

From what I have seen, we are a hard to study group because most people who fail the surgery or the surgery fails them either cannot find a support group for this specific challenge, or are too embarassed and or frustrated by people who are inexperienced to try anymore and fade into the woodwork.

Unfotunately for me, I will continue to have to be my own best friend and help myself as best I can when no one else will.

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Wow.I'm so shocked at this I had Rny also in 2005 I have since gained back 65 lbs.But I know why Ive gained weight back it's me I can eat whatever I want and I have fallen off the right track.But to say your surgery failed you is ridiculous!!! You need to meet with a Psycologist/Nutritionist.Get your head back on the right road.You cannot blame anyone else that's probably how you got to the point of surgery to begin with,Right? Please to th responsibilty for yourself,SURGERY is not MAGIC.We can do this together,sport each other get on track exercise/water/protien/support group meeting!!  

Ridiculous..it's a tool, you have to do the work. it's not going to smack sugar out of your hand.  Go see a psychologist and figure out why you eat sugar, not a lawyer.  Good luck. 

Ridiculous..it's a tool, you have to do the work. it's not going to smack sugar out of your hand.  Go see a psychologist and figure out why you eat sugar, not a lawyer.  Good luck. 

    How can you wake up and be thin.   If still stuffing yourself with small amounts of  junk food everyday after you surgery.  The surgery does'nt change your life.  You change your life.
   Your talking to woman who watched her brother died because, He could stop eatting. He died at almost 40 years old at almost 550 pounds.  He had his surgery 3 years before and was 390 and he lose hurdred pounds just gain it all back and more.  He did not  change his lifestyle  or learn to exercise and it cost him his life.

    We are all fighting to stay alive here.  Do think of as a weight issue .  think it as a matter of life and death.  This is you health and your body.  If I new  all the answers.  I would be thin and there would know reason for me to be thinking of having surgery.  I know have to change the way you live your life to loose the weight. The surgery is not a mircle cure all.  You have to do the work involved.