FRUSTRATED

 I feel like a failure. I had WLS in 2006. I went from 316 to 204. I never got to the 180 pounds my surgeon wanted, and I am now back up to 240. I have tried the pouch test, and just couldnt stick with it!!!! I am scared to death that I will get back to where I was before. I have tried diet pills, diet clinics, and now I am thinking about trying Weigh****chers just to get some help or support. 

I feel your pain.  I had surgery in 2006 also.  I weighed 200 lbs.  I was a lead in patient to the Restore Trial which failed overall.  In April 2009 I weighed 235 lbs and was failing at Weigh****chers because I was eating poor point choices and really very hungry.  I simply started dieting and I got back to around 180 and then back to 200 and now back to 182.  I finally realized I have a RNY that does not limit me.  I am off of all diabetes insulin and meds and my a1C has been normal since the RNY!  My husband pointed out to me that my A1C is NORMAL!!!!  I can eat any food I want to enjoy without vomiting or dumping...this really is a good thing.  I just count calories and try to eat the most healthy I can.   I will never be a "super patient" on my doctor's web page or a skinny minnie!....but so what!  I enjoy food and eating!  I am slowly losing weight!  I am not sick!  I am no longer a diabetic!  I will get to my goal which will still be overweight, but I am going to be happy with that and enjoy my life and my food.

Please just take your time and let it come off slowly.  You weigh 76 lbs less than you did before!  That is wonderful!  Eat a little healthier and move a little more every day and get into onederland by next summer.  Practice how you are going to eat for the rest of your life.  Be proud and thankful for your accomplishment.  Congratulations and good luck!  Daisy

Daisy you are an inspiration to so many people out there. You are totally right that eating the right foods plays such a major role and that it's not just about one thing or the other. I also believe that counting calories is a great way to lose weight, or at least eating the right amount of calories a day for a healthy slow weightloss. If you give up you won't lose weight. If you try, with confidence and motivation you will succeed for sure. Great advice - I don't think any professional could have said it better ;)

 Daisy I do think Ure doing FANTASTIC and im so glad Ure getting happy with where U are currently weight wise .....and also appreciative of all the  WLS has done for U health- wise .  

That said , I think U should think of posting on the liteweights occasionally or just reading them --  U ARE absolutely a liteweight now  and if U read the board most posters are around Ur weight and BMI ....

Sometimes I worry that U must feel all alone here . that U are GIVING help and encouragement but perhaps not recieving as much of it as U could .....

and I know on the liteweights board U would never get flamed or criticized  , only supported .  U MIGHT also get some great IDEAS like I did that WORK ... like the isopure protein shake as a creamer in my tea ....  

I come here too because I am fundamentally frustrated that my surgery wasnt radical enough ... and my metabolic disorder  is outsmarting its mild restriction and mild malabsorption .  If I dwelled on that ... well i think i would find myslef at a few all U can eat buffets ....  

Hanging with the liteweights,.... I find myself reading about daily exercise and unbelievably small amounts of food as meals .... and i slowly move in the RIGHT direction.    Its all about what U do when Ur weight is UP ive decided ... do i go out and RUN or SKATE  or do i feel sorry for myslef and prepare ( and eat ) more food ?!    

I can assure U that in the last year  I have  never seen a bit of negativity there ..just support and unconditional love .  Its a very SAFE place for me to express my frustration and my fellow posters  have been wonderful to me ....