I feel like a failure...
a wls failure. my rny was 2/6/04. i lost almost 200 pounds the first year. was pregnant 3/05, had a miscarriage, was pregnant again the end of may 05 and went on to deliver a beautiful, healthy boy in Dec. i kept the wt in check for the most part. then in 07, we were pg again! who kew that wls was such a fertility saver...we had tried for 8 years prior to wls...no luck...anyway, in jan of 08 i delivered a gorgeous baby girl...my problem is this...I have gained back 60 pounds in the year since her birth. i was on prozac for ppd, and think it attributed to my gain some, but not entirely. i am SO depressed. i feel like a total and utter loser. i find myself out of breath a lot more, i have no motivation, and i feel like a hypocrite. i currently weigh 370. i had gotten as low as 310...i started at 525, so the initial 200+ pound wt loss was rewarding...there is no way i can afford a revision...i justfeel like crap. i am very irritable, cry at the drop of a hat...just sad. i quit the prozac thinking it wasn't helping as much as it was hurting...switched to celexa...started feeling very out of control...am now on nothing for mood management,,,don't know if i need to be, but i just am at a loss to what to do or who to turn to. my dh doesn't get it. i am not interested in sex, tho he wants me to be...i am just not interested in anything, i feel like i can't do anything right....any ideas.....?
First, congrats on the babies. That in and of itself is an awsome accomplishment. Then, how do you know what it costs for a revision? I gained back over 50 pounds (and I did not get preggers) after only two years with the gastric bypass. Now I am going to have the duodenal switch. True, it may cost m ore money than you have in your pocket, but it is doable. You owe it to yourself to see a doctor well versed in the DS and hear it from him about a revision. Do not just go to any weight loss surgeon, stick with a surgeon who does the DS please, and I wish you well and your family too. Check out the DS forum here on OH. Check out dsfacts.com and duodenalswitch.com to learn all about the DS (duodenal switch) weight loss surgery.
KAREN W.
I LOVE MY DS!!!!!
STRIVE TO BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE AND DO THE BEST THAT YOU CAN.
Check out www.dsfacts.com and www.duodenalswitch.com for all the accurate information on the great DS, and find surgeons in your area or around the country or out of the country.
I couldn't have done without all the great peeps on this board.
SW: 234.5 CW: 157 GW: 140 - ish
I feel the same way sometimes about my weight also I had rny 07-12-06 and I almost lost 100pds but lately my back and legs have started to bother me a lot and the exercising has been a real problem. I have gained at least a pound or two for the last 2 months and now I am at 179 my starting weight was 233 and i am 5feet tall. I just wanted to look good and be able to run around with my grandchildren but it is not happening for me right now. I went out and purchased all these small clothes which I could fit a about two months ago and now they sit in the closet. My stomach sits on my legs when siting down standing up I look like I'm about 8 months pregnant. I don't have hanging skin it has definition but very big. My doctor will not recommend the tummy tuck because of the issues with my back and I am very upset about that I need help what do I do can anyone tell me what I am doing wrong?
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Have you ever heard of tricking your pouch? There is a way to be just like you just had it done. I got this information from another website. I will try to forward you this information. I think you need some counseling or a really good friend to talk to. I take 150 of effexor a day. I know that I have to take this the rest of my life or I cry all day. I am older than you. I am 51 and my children are grown. But the very best time of my life was when the children were little.
You need some down time for you. You need date nights to get reaquainted with your spouse. I know easier said than done. But just connecting for five minutes day is helpful.
Sometimes a good cry is needed. and do not feel bad about that. Hope to hear from you soon. katyp [email protected]
You need some down time for you. You need date nights to get reaquainted with your spouse. I know easier said than done. But just connecting for five minutes day is helpful.
Sometimes a good cry is needed. and do not feel bad about that. Hope to hear from you soon. katyp [email protected]
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