I feel like a failure...

TracieList
on 3/31/09 3:03 pm - Carroll, IA
a wls failure.  my rny was 2/6/04.  i lost almost 200 pounds the first year.  was pregnant 3/05, had a miscarriage, was pregnant again the end of may 05 and went on to deliver a beautiful, healthy boy in Dec.  i kept the wt in check for the most part.  then in 07, we were pg again!  who kew that wls was such a fertility saver...we had tried for 8 years prior to wls...no luck...anyway, in jan of 08 i delivered a gorgeous baby girl...my problem is this...I have gained back 60 pounds in the year since her birth.  i was on prozac for ppd, and think it attributed to my gain some, but not entirely. i am SO depressed.  i feel like a total and utter loser.  i find myself out of breath a lot more, i have no motivation, and i feel like a hypocrite.  i currently weigh 370.  i had gotten as low as 310...i started at 525, so the initial 200+ pound wt loss was rewarding...there is no way i can afford a revision...i justfeel like crap.  i am very irritable, cry at the drop of a hat...just sad.  i quit the prozac thinking it wasn't helping as much as it was hurting...switched to celexa...started feeling very out of control...am now on nothing for mood management,,,don't know if i need to be, but i just am at a loss to what to do or who to turn to.  my dh doesn't get it.  i am not interested in sex, tho he wants me to be...i am just not interested in anything,  i feel like  i can't do anything right....any ideas.....?
shoutjoy
on 3/31/09 8:48 pm - Culpeper, VA

Wow, you have been through a whole lot of stuff both good and bad.  My only advice is counseling.  There is alot going on inside you that needs to get sorted out.  Once you feel ok with yourself again, then tackle the weight issue.

Congrats on the quiver full of babies!  You are truly blessed.

Clueless about weight loss and weight loss surgery of any kind.

    

        
KRWaters
on 4/1/09 12:32 am - Manteca, CA
First, congrats on the babies. That in and of itself is an awsome accomplishment. Then, how do you know what it costs for a revision? I gained back over 50 pounds (and I did not get preggers) after only two years with the gastric bypass.  Now I am going to have the duodenal switch. True, it may cost m ore money than you have in your pocket, but it is doable. You owe it to yourself to see a doctor well versed in the DS and hear it from him about a revision. Do not just go to any weight loss surgeon, stick with a surgeon who does the DS please, and I wish you well and your family too.  Check out the DS forum here on OH. Check out dsfacts.com and duodenalswitch.com to learn all about the DS (duodenal switch) weight loss surgery.

KAREN W. 


I LOVE MY DS!!!!!

STRIVE TO BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE AND DO THE BEST THAT YOU CAN.


Check out
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weeta
on 4/1/09 7:08 pm, edited 4/1/09 7:08 pm
I feel the same way sometimes about my weight also I had rny 07-12-06 and I almost lost  100pds but lately my back and legs have started to bother me a lot and the exercising has been a real problem. I have gained at least a pound or two for the last 2 months and now I am at 179 my starting weight was 233 and i am 5feet tall. I just wanted to look good and be able to run around with my grandchildren but it is not happening for me right now. I went out and purchased all these small clothes which I could fit a about two months ago and now they sit in the closet. My stomach sits on my legs when siting down standing up I look like I'm about 8 months pregnant. I don't have hanging skin it has definition but very big. My doctor will not recommend the tummy tuck because of the issues with my back and I am very upset about that I need help what do I do can anyone tell me what I am doing wrong? 
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on 4/2/09 3:01 am - Menomonee Falls, WI
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on 4/2/09 3:02 am - Menomonee Falls, WI
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on 4/2/09 2:37 am, edited 4/2/09 2:45 am - Menomonee Falls, WI
katyp
on 4/10/09 7:12 am
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Have you ever heard of tricking your pouch? There is a way to be just like you just had it done. I got this information from another website. I will try to forward you this information. I think you need some counseling or a really good friend to talk to. I take 150 of effexor a day. I know that I have to take this the rest of my life or I cry all day. I am older than you. I am 51 and my children are grown. But the very best time of my life was when the children were little.
You need some down time for you. You need date nights to get reaquainted with your spouse. I know easier said than done. But just connecting for five minutes day is helpful.

Sometimes a good cry is needed. and do not feel bad about that. Hope to hear from you soon. katyp [email protected]
 
lookinforward
on 4/10/09 5:10 pm
Could you send me the information on tricking your pouch, too?
Thanks
Lookin'Forward
        "Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God" 
                                                                                Corrie Ten Boon


katyp
on 4/11/09 3:17 am


--- On Mon, 3/2/09, Gayle wrote:
From: Gayle
Subject: Re: [GBIC] PLEASE HELP
To: [email protected]
Date: Monday, March 2, 2009, 2:15 PM

Well, now I have more information and can explain some things to you. When
you had surgery you had a window of opportunity that generally lasts about
6-9 months. For some, the weight loss can go on for a year or two but these
are people who usually are losing weight loser. You don't say how much
weight you lost or what your starting or ending BMI are.

For now, it's best to get back to basics if you are not. That means
following all of the rules like 2-3 protein shakes a day, vitamin & mineral
supplements, 64 or more ozs. of water daily, protein in first and foremost,
limiting carbs to no more than 10 per meal and no more than 30 per day (you
do NOT have to count carbs if they are 3-5 each in your protein shakes in
this count). If you are drinking with meals, STOP!! This washes food out of
your pouch and will enable you to eat more food. Exercise is crucial.

If you are already doing all of these things and still the weight is not
coming off it is recommended that you try mixing things up. For example, if
you eat the same things day in and day out, switch it out. If you always use
a tread mill, perhaps doing some other kind of exercise.

If you end up like me, you will try all of these ideas and still the weight
will not budge. That will be because your body has refused to allow any more
weight loss without more drastic measures (in my case, I want but will
likely never get, a revision to a more distal surgery or from RNY to
BPD/DS).

Here is a way to "test" your pouch:

http://www.5daypouc htest.com/
 
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