Feel like I failed

I had my GBS on April 3th, 08 and am now coming up to 1yr. My start weight was 314 and I have been stuck at 202 to 204 for 3 mo's and I feel like I can't get back to losing more weight. My goal  weight is 140.

I haven't been to my doc since oct because I had to work overtime over the holidays. I was at 211 the last time that I saw the doc. My doc said that I should lose 10ps a mo and I haven't done that. He wanted me at my goal weight in a yr. I am not going to make it, and I feel really sad that I have stopped losing weight in the 200.

My aunt had GBS on April 07, she lost the weight and got to her goal in 15mo 224 to 124. She didn't really work out at all. I on the other hand do a few times a week.

I am also not sure on what I should be eatting now. I know that I do have to go back to see my doc which I am will a appointment for next week. But I know that they will be very disappointed in me and that  makes me really depressed. I am not sure on what to do to start it up again. If you have any tips please let me know.

Thanks

Hi,

It might be wise to see a nutritionist.  He or she can help you jump start your weight loss again.  That's the thing about wls.  Everyone loses at a different rate.  I also would join the Back on Track message board to help you get motivated.  Hang in there.

sound to me your doing good you lost 100bl  in 1 year.that good. I wish I had lost that amount. I had RNY 2/1/07 started at 240 and today Iam still stuck ar 170bl. Its been hard for me , i was determine to beat the odds. started taking diet pills to help me loose.  withthe help from it I lost 25 bl. I feel the surgery has failed me

Wow. What type of diet pill did you take? And how long have you been on them? My friend said that she thinks I did really well with losing 100lbs. But I was hoping for more. I wish you luck.

I too thought about diet pills (actually purchased Alli, but my appetite isn't a problem and I want to ensure I don't hinder my vitamin absorbtion).  I find that during the day I don't eat much if anything. Between the water and 1 or 2 protein shakes, who has the time.  I find that I do want dinner and a late snack; for example I made me lemon cheesecake for my late snack (which also helps with my sweet tooth). 

Anyway, just sharing so you know that you are not alone .

I'm starting to feel like i've failed too. I had my DS on April 1st 08 so i'm coming up on my 1 year too and i haven't lost anything for about the same amount of time. I just want to get under 200 at this point!

But i suppose it's my fault cuz i've been eating too many carbs and i haven't been going to the gym. I don't know about the rest of you, but will power seems to go out the window with me come winter. Stupid seasonial depresson on top of my regular depresson. So I've made a vow to do better starting today! and with spring coming in a month or so, maybe i'll be able to keep that promise......maybe i should get a puppy.

Hi all, Thank you all for sharing your story.

I went to my doc on Tue, I am at 201.4. I doc said that I shouldn't be stuck at this weight and that I need to do 30min of exercise everyday. I have to go back on Mar 19 and she wants me to lose 10lbs by then. I hope I can do it.

I too have been depressed this winter, And I find myself having snacks and not meals. Which is not good. I am lonely person and wish I had someone to go exercise with. I feel that will help me be more motivated.

A puppy is a good idea because it will get you going out for walks and runs.

I spoke with my doctors office today and was told not to worry that I am on schedule.  I have lost 44% of my weight which is a good result.

I can stop drinking protein shalkes daily and for the next month only have 1 3x a week (for the next month and then 1 per week after that).  Because my body has now adjusted; also because of the calores in the shakes. Have 3 meals daily w/2 snacks which should be fruits, veggies, yogurt, etc.

Also, for me to be aware that because of my working out, I have gained muscle and it weighs more than fat.


I guess I will keep my head to the sky and continue to march on!

I'm reading the replies and feel like I SHOULD feel that I've failed.  I'm one year post op and I've gone from 301 to 230...but I don't feel like a failure.  I honestly cheat, but that reminds me that it's not always a hunger issue, I rarely feel hungry...but I'm addicted to food.  I lose weight when I follow one simple rule...when I start to think about food, I drink one cup of water or cranberry juice.  With one cup in my system, I feel so full that I can't possibly consider eating...I might think about it...but it's like thinking about an exboyfriend that just broke your heart.  You want him but you can't have him...and he's a total rat ******* for leaving you (and in this case, food is a total rat ******* for not being calorie free).

I can barely do pills...I had the lapband and if I take pills, I  have to space them out or they fill up my stomach so quickly that I end up tossing cookies (pills?) all over the place.  As long as I'm not in the same place I was a year ago, I consider myself A-OK...and I'm not gaining....and I'm not eating 2 full McDonalds meals...(and I couldn't even if I wanted to)...

Have patience with yourself and with your body...we all hit those plateaus...I started following a strict diet before my surgery to lose 10 lbs...went from 301 to 275...and now I'm still only at 230...but when my surgeon examines me, I've lost fat...MOSTLY fat and a little bit of water weight...I've gained about 30 lbs of muscle.  

In some place in our mind, we mostly imagined that we'd be at some perfect weight within an unhealthy time period...it sounds like everyone is doing much better than I am..and instead of being disappointed, I'm so proud of everyone.