IT'S OFFICIAL I AM A FAILURE

Ok so here is the deal...I had RNY on 1/11/06.  I have lost 168 lbs.  I have lost 12 lbs since October of 2006.  That makes me a failure.  I am addicted to carbs, and I am just lost.  I don't know what to do and am so scared that I will gain weight back.  I am scheduled for a panniculectomy on 4/30/07.  We will see what happens then.  I just want to vent.  I am trying to get back on track but I think that it will never happen and it scares the s**t out of me.  Any advice?   433 lbs 1/11/06 265 lbs 4/5/07 168 lost Man, do I suck! ~Norma~

Norma, 168 pound loss doesn't sound like a failure to me.  Most of us loss the most in those first 6 months or so, then it slows way down.  I haven't lost for 9 months, but like you said, it's from adding those carbs back.  We can fight this, it's one of those.........just have to do it.....things.

Good luck.

Do you post on the Grads board?  A lot of us are dealing with the same issues.

I'm not sure where you get  your information or idea that 168lbs lost in a year and few months is a failure    It's fantastic to me! 

I had my rny on 8Nov 2006 and have lost 46lbs!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now thats what I call a failure  Susie

That's 1.5 lbs. a week.  I wouldn't call it a failure, just slow weight loss.

Hi Norma, I am not sure how you qualify as a failure.  I am the last person in the world to give advice cause I have failed.  I hope you can remember where you came from.  I would be so grateful to see 265 again.  I wish you all the best. Ann Highest: 423 3/7/03 Lowest:  270 11/1/05 Current:  350

168 and your crying failure you need somebody to smack u lol that is great are you crazy!!!! Don't beat yourself up omg

I don't think you are a failure.  I do think you are scared of being one, and so am I.  Losing consistently and leveling off without gaining again is not failure.  Respecting ourselves enough to keep it off is not failure.  And knowing how close the carb monsters are is realistic, not failure. If you can make yourself get back on protein to prepare for surgery, it may help.  I keep hearing that protein helps us heal, and you will have lots of healing to do. Best wishes with this!

Anyone who made the decision to take back their health - got on that table and let a (virtual) complete stranger re-arrange their insides in an effort to help us lose weight is not, in any way, shape or form, a failure. Consider yourselves a HERO. Okay, so there seems to be slow weight loss, or goal weights not being reached, or some weight gain along the journey..... but none of those things makes us failures.....  it simply means that we are letting obstacles get in our way of further success. My biggest obstacle?  The day I let bad carbs back into my diet.  Along with the bad carbs came their horrible friends, the Bad Habits.  It's just a matter of asking them to leave the party - oh, and not inviting them back - EVER! We can do this!  We are worth it, we deserve it, and we are NOT failures.  EVER!

well i had surgery 4/1/06 and havenot lost weight since like january but i am @ 138 i have nothing else to loose i only lost 90 some pounds everyone is diffrent...just get some exercise in....i eat gouda and grapes like its going out of style but work out 2-3 times a week religiously.