this is so hard

I have been having a really hard time with this . I know it was going to be hard but not this hard. I having a really hard time with my eating drinking and just about everything. my attitude is bad , i'm wishing I never had this done . but as I say that I know that in about 6 months i'll be so glad I did this .its only been 5 weeks since surgery so I guess i'm not the only person that feels this way. its so hard to watch tv without seeing food all over the place. is there anyone having the same problems let me know  

People who have never experienced morbid obesity have no idea why we undergo bariatric surgery or how hard it is. It infuriates me when someone calls this "the easy way out". It is NOT easy! It's hard. But for most of us, it's the only way out.

    This time of year is especially challenging. There is food everywhere, and food cues everywhere. And right now, as a new post-op, you are going through lots of physical, metabolic and emotional changes, and a big lifestyle change. these changes are good things, but they are hard.

    So cut yourself a little slack, turn off the TV (or watch public TV - no commercials) find activities that you can't eat and do at the same time or that at least distract you and occupy your mind. Or take a nap! Do whatever you need to do to escape the food cues as much as you can. Even taking a walk helps. It's good exercise and it helps to clear your mind. You will get through this and the surgery along with your own efforts will pay off big time.

Larra

I'm at 4 months now and just two days ago I was thinking how sick I was of dealing with it all.  That made my mind come to a full stop, because I remember around 5 weeks to about 9 weeks, when how much it sucked was almost always on my mind.  It was like living with a faithful pet whale.  It was always there and always smelly!  

Things get better.  And it also seems like around 3 months, they start getting a lot better at a faster and faster rate.  You might actually be at about the worst of it now because you haven't had a break since probably a few weeks before the surgery.  

If you can learn how to comfort and reward yourself, without using food, you will be set for life.  I am still learning, but figured out a few things.  One is that I love jig saw puzzles.  Especially on the computer, but both are good.  They seem to give me many of the same rewards without any food being involved.  'I Spy' games on the computer are fun too.  Fishdom is another god send.  Going for walks are good, playing with the dog, growing plants are all old habits, but I'm reaching more deeply into them now. 

I have also learned to treat myself to foods, just what foods I choose are different.  For example, watermelon always makes me feel physically better.   It doesn't' even take that much and I think it comes back in to our diets on week 2 or 3. 

Lastly, I tell myself that super fanatical devotion to the DS diet is only for a year.  Whilst the honeymoon stage lasts, I have promised myself that I will be a compliance champion.  So, when my idiot brother-in-law put a whole plate of fresh-from-the-oven brownies down right in front of my face, I told myself (as I ran out of the room), "Not THIS year."  It isn't never, it is just not during the honeymoon.   I don't know the rules for what my post-honeymoon body will need, but the veterans sure make it sound like it will be able to deal with the occasional brownie.  I can deal with depravation for a year. 

Good luck!

I totally understand how you feel. I had my DS 10/28/14 and HAVE lost 131 lbs so far. Great, right? NOOOOOO!!!! I am miserable every single day. I am nauseated all the time and have NO desire to eat at all and if I do eat, its literally 2-3 bites and then I feel miserably bloated and still nauseated. My labs are awful and I don't have the energy to get out of bed most days. My kids are mad at me and I can understand. I can't even ENJOY the weight loss because of the way I feel. We will just have to pray for each other and hope it passes soon.

Amy

Nausea is the worst.  Nobody can live a good life whilst suffering from it.  I lost my Mother-in-law last year to breast cancer, except I would argue that what really caused her decline was the nausea.   It wasn't until the last few months that we got a doctor on board that really dealt with it, but by then it was too late.  She was 95, so it is not a parallel case. 

What have you tried?  Have you spotted any patterns for your nausea?  Is it after a specific pills?  All pills?  A particular food?  All food?  Time of day?  Empty stomach?  Unfortunately, "Always" is an acceptable answer. 

I had problems after my ds surgery, but it went away after two months.  (Except yesterday for some odd reason!)   I have had good luck with several different kinds of prescription drugs.  My mother-in-law's cancer doctor also got me started on a product called Queasy Drops.  They come in full sugar or sugar alcohol.  Post surgery I have had both.  I don't actually have to have a full drop to settle my stomach most times and so neither variety caused me any problems and they did work.  You are probably having so few calories that the full sugar ones would be best for now. 

Please promise me that you will take a swing at fixing the nausea.  If you do, the rest of the problems might work themselves out.  I know how easy it is to be overwhelmed during a nausea attack, so promise you will talk to your doctor and order the Queasy Drops and then post again and let us know what you learned. 

Brandy, that is an amazing reply. I had the exact same mindset and learned a lot during that last year of "just getting the weight off". I had to figure out what my food triggers were and deal with them. Anger, boardom, they all come out. I took the year to measure portions so that I could see what a real serving looked like . I would tell myself that if I wanted more, I could have it . I was usually sated. I did not want to stretch out my new stomach. Now, diet is not on my resolutions list andhas not been for 8 years.

I think the first 3 months are the hardest.  I didn't think I was ever going to get where I could eat.  I lived off of soups....they were the only thing that would stay down.  I still cannot domeat very well.  I may be able to eat something and then try it again later and won't be able to tolerate it.  I never had real bad nausea.  I could just tell something was not going to stay down...I would tell my husband that I foamed at the mouth like a mad dog.....LOL.  Eat real small bites, get you a baby spoon to eat with, time yourself and eat slow(still hard for me)....and of course chew chew chew!  I also learned if I waited more than four hours to eat...stomach acid built up and I had a hard time keeping anything down.  I found soups (got a lot from Scholtzsky's) and chili from Wendy's was the easiest.  Rice and broccoli is still hard for me.  Most fuit does not settle well.  I just try my best to get my protein in with GENEPRO and crystal light.  I sip on it all day and all night.  I get my protein in and liquids at the same time.  It will get better.....GOOD LUCK!